How soon is too soon?

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Registered: 11-30-2004
How soon is too soon?
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Mon, 02-14-2005 - 5:01pm

Im am recently separated and starting the process of getting over him. While it's been hard, I know that it's not something that's going to kill me but rather make me stronger. I actually feel as if Im better off. My future is so bright and positive that him leaving me was probably for the best. The day my divorce is finalized, I'll be so happy.

Although it's only been two months since he left, I've met someone who I really like. Im not trying to get too serious with him, but I don't want to ignore the feelings I have. Everyone has their different opinions about meeting someone new after just coming out of a long term relationship. But I don't want this person to be a "rebound". I really do like him because I think he's a good guy. Not to mention that he's everything my ex was not. Is that a bad thing? It's so natural to compare. Is it too soon to start something new with someone you really like? If so, why should I deny myself of these natural feelings? It was not my intent to immediately go out and find someone to replace my ex. It just sorta happened.........

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Mon, 02-14-2005 - 7:27pm
This guy may be right for you, and it may work out, but the statistics are against it. Divorce is a process and sometimes lasts longer than the legal part. The fact you are still dealing with getting divorced can negatively impact your relationship. You may not want him to be a rebound but he might turn out to be that anyway. You may find that 6 months after you are divorced, you want something completely different than you think you want right now. I started dating when I was separated, so I won't say don't do it. I just think you have to proceed with caution.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 02-15-2005 - 4:03pm

Keep the "right now" mentality.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~