Used his kids to committ fraud!

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Registered: 02-16-2005
Used his kids to committ fraud!
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Wed, 02-16-2005 - 3:46pm

I have been seperated from my husband for a little over 2 years. For most of those 2 years he was MIA from our kids lives, with maybe a handful of phone calls made in that time and no child support payments made.

I filed for child support early on, it took them months to reply and finally in 9/04 we had a court date. He came back into town for the court date, and it just so happen to be the day before my daughters 4th birthday so he stoped by to see her and spent all of 15 mins with the kids. A month later on 10/01 he moved back to town into his mother's house. He called to tell me he was working and in town, a month later he called to say hi to the kids, a little over 2 monts later he finally came to see the kids ( his mom lives about 10 mins away). I informed him that I would not allow him to speak to the kids on the phone unless he started seeing them on a regular basis, I had had enough of his infrequent calls and the affect they had on my daughter ( the oldest and the one most affected by the seperation). Since that time he has come by every weekend except for last weekend. In all this time I have recieved one check for child support.

A few months ago, my parents recieved a letter from the IRS that 2 SS#'s they had claimed on thier taxes as dependents ( my kids, which I allow my parents to claim because since we are living in their home they put forth the most contribution to mainting my kids). I knew instantly he had claimed the kids (which at that point he hadn't seen in over a year) on his taxes.

Well now I just recieved a phone call from HR Block saying they couldn't file our taxes because my kids had already been claimed on someone else's taxes, and now we have to send in our taxes with a letter stating we have the right to claim my kids. This will delay us getting a refund for who knows how long. My father just lost his job, my mom just filed for retirement and I am unemployed atm. We were going to use the refund money to pay the taxes on the house, which now we have no idea how we are going to come up with that money.

I was so angry when I found out I called him and went off on him. He didn't see a problem at all, he said "what do you care? You get my tax refund anyways." I was furious, I told him he would now have to get a court order to be able to see his kids again. I am so angry. I have only gotten one check from child support, who know's when I would get the refund money check. Plus I am sure our refund would have been much more then his.

This man cares about no one but himself. He could care less about the kids, and is only seeing them after being pressured by his mother. He is a drug user (the reason I left him, along with lies and so many other issues) and ugh!

I don't know what to do. I havne't filed for divorce in all this time because it is not cheap! My greatest fear is that he would be given permission to see the kids unsupervised and be able to take them out of my house on visits. I'm about to go crazy, I feel so helpless and so angry. I can imagine my kids future with this man in their lives, full of lies and empty promises, I can close my eyes and see my kids waiting on a porch for hours for him to show up for a promised visit.

I have dedicated 24/7/365 to my kids since the day they were born. Everything I do is about them. I stay at home with them and I don't date or go out alone, I have no interest in a social life and NONE what so ever in dating or relationships atm. I have let him visit the kids for thier sake, but he is such a self centered jerk. The only reason he did this is to avoid paying the 5k he owes in back child support, he's using money he has no right to. He is basically taking food out of my kids mouth, in order to pay his child support debt and with the fact I have only gotten 1 check since he "says" he started working who knows how long it will be before I see the money from his taxes. And he doesn't care!

Sorry to rant, I just needed to let this all out.

Thank you,

Lexiy

PS Please excuse the typos :/




Edited 2/16/2005 3:48 pm ET ET by lexiy
A rambler with a flair for the dramatic...nah just a rambler.
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Wed, 02-16-2005 - 4:34pm

Gheez Louise!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~