It does get better

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Registered: 02-26-2004
It does get better
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Wed, 02-16-2005 - 4:53pm

First I want to thank you all for sharing your stories because they've really helped. My husband and I havent filed yet, but we're already seperated, living apart since Dec. 17 (day after my birthday).Since then all I could think about was giving up & dying.Of how I've messed my kids up and they're not living with me.Now I see neither of them are missing anything.I may not be there in person every moment,but I am still active in their lives.Cried over how my life would nvr be the same again.That's all true but since I spoke with him last week I see where I was indeed holding myself back by not accepting the situation.I discovered i still held a fantasy of him asking me back and happilly ever after.I had to hear him say the reasons we couldnt be together.I had to accept that I can do this on my own.That I had put my identity into him and our marriage and I was afraid of creating a new one.

Well, I feel so much better.I know there are plenty of hurdles left on my journey,and you could read me venting tomorrow, but i'm looking forward to see what I can achieve.

I started back at the gym too and it feels great!!Our health in these stressful times is very important.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 02-16-2005 - 5:00pm

Thank you for sharing this with us.... and I'm so glad that you are feeling good about how things are going.


Hang in there... and jump in here with us any time!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Thu, 02-17-2005 - 1:10pm

thank you so much for sharing! and great taht you are moving ahead, going to the gym, learning to accept this.


it will get better and better and better - every day....


hugsssss