New and a mess

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Registered: 10-10-2003
New and a mess
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Tue, 02-22-2005 - 1:09pm
I am not married, but have been with him for 2 1/2 years. We share property and various things so it feels like a divorce. I feel lost all the time. I am terrified and do not know how to move on. I found out that he is with someone else already and he probably was with her before we split. I feel like the person I thought he was is just a lie. Everything I have believed is just a lie. I feel like my life for two years has been a lie. I am so hurt and crushed and empty. I don't know if I will ever be able to love again. I don't know if I can ever let myself feel that purely devoted to someone. I feel like he cheated me out of love.
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Registered: 03-02-2004
Tue, 02-22-2005 - 4:55pm

I'm sorry to hear what you are going through. I know the feeling, but the "other women" was a stupid computer. He was on it 24/7 and I was non-existent. I have been trying to get seperated and divorced for almost 2 and a half years and its still being dragged out! I never thought I could love again. He took total advantage of me, BUT now that things are coming closer to ending for good I am starting to get over the hurt and bitterness. I even started to check out guys and want to start dating. I didn't think that would ever happen again. Just let time heal. Personally he doesn't seem like worth hurting over. If he is with someone else already he obviously didn't care, so don't waste your time over someone like that. There are much better men out there. I know easier said than done, but us gals are here for ya!

Keep your chin up, it does get better!!!
V

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 02-23-2005 - 9:55am

He can only cheat you out of love if you let him..... I think that he probably has no idea what he just walked away from.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~