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| Wed, 02-23-2005 - 10:43am |
Hi everyone,
Well I just got a call from my attorney and H's attorney wants to set up a meeting for a 4 way. So on March 8th we will have this meeting, my attorney told me that if we walk out of that meeting without a custody battle he will consider that a successful meeting. It seems to be that all the issues H has at this point have to do with money and how he is going to be left with nothing. So I guess time will tell.
It just hit me really hard and I have been sitting here at work crying. Things just seem to be moving forward really fast. I feel out of touch, out of control. Saturday we put the house on the market and the first showing is Thursday, then my realtor is pushing for me to start looking at houses and then this call from the attorney. I just feel overwhelmed, thank god I have my counseling appointment tomorrow morning. You know this is my second D (D the first time 14 years ago) but I never experienced any of these feelings. Its like a don't know what to do next, is this normal? Is it normal that H isn't exhibiting any feelings but going on with his life and still going out right under my nose with the neighbor? Well I guess I don't have any choice but to try and "catch up" I'm just really scared.
I'm scared about being on my own with the kids, paying the bills on my own, running a side business on my own, living on my own, not having anyone to turn to and being able to provide for my kids. Why can't I be happy that this means things are moving forward? Thanks to everyone for letting me vent and air my worries, sometimes it just helps to get it all out.
DAF

Feeling unsettled while things are being resolved and changing is perfectly natural... and will settle down as each step takes place.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
I agree with Karen, a good cry is a great stress release!!!
Things are so hard when you don't know what is going to happen. If you are like me, you are a planner and you want to KNOW for sure what is happening. Not having closure is the hardest thing in the world. Once the D is final, you will have that closure.
It is normal for you to be unhappy at this point. This is a MAJOR life change. Things do happen fast and until they actually happen things seem surreal, almost like you are dreaming. So once you realize what is going on, it hits you harder than hard.
It is also normal for H to be emotionless. I hear about this OFTEN and I experienced this in my own situation. My STBX was very concerned and loving at first, didn't want to hurt me etc.... but then all of a sudden one day he turned. I believe it was the influence of his girlfriend that did it alont with the reality that I wasn't asking for him back anymore. I filed for divorce and he became a real jerk. Downright insulting at times. The only emotion he showed was anger towards me ( even though he left me ) I remember through my final divorce hearing my STBX was acting nervous and jerky and when we left the court room I caught eye contact with him and he actually cracked half a "high how are you" nod combination smile.... it's funny.
Anyway... I hope things get better for you. If you need anything please let us know!!!
Hugs,
Angelena
best of luck to you. im new to posting, but been reading for awhile, and the community here is very supportive, so dont hesitate to reach out to them.