how do i divorce the man i love?

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Registered: 11-03-2003
how do i divorce the man i love?
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Fri, 02-25-2005 - 10:12am
We argued again last night. It's over. I will never change my mind about his kid who I can't stand and I can't take his ex-wife's BS any longer. I tried for 5 years. I love him, he loves me, but I can't change how I feel about the situation. I don't know how I will make it through this. I have a dd who is very close to him. I would allow "vivitation" but think it would be horrible on us to see each other. So confused. So sad. Financially this will ruin us both just to add to the wound.
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Fri, 02-25-2005 - 10:52am

I think if your dd wants to continue a relationship with her step-dad and he wants that too, then you bite the bullet and let that happen. Sometimes we have to make sacrifices to put our children's needs first.

Have you been in counseling while you are going through this? It's too much to handle on your own. It's hard to make good rational decisions when you are feeling the way you feel, and the decisions you make in the near future are one's you will live with for a long time. A counselor can help keep you on the right track and help you see things you may not be seeing, so you can act in your own and your children's best interests in this difficult time.

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