can he change his mind?
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| Mon, 02-28-2005 - 8:10pm |
hi all
i know this is different in every state and under different circumstances but i wondered if anyone knows this
i am supposed to receive a final no-fault divorce soon. we have signed, filed, gone through the waiting period, etc. we have done the property division, although i do not know if it was approved.
but now he is saying he wants to get back together. he transferred to a job near me and is buying a house! i have told him in no uncertain terms its over, but im worried he can withdraw his agreement to a no-fault divorce. and if thats not granted i dont have legal grounds in this state to receive a divorce! (only abuse and adultery or abandonment apply. well he DID actually abandon, but it takes 2 years from the time it happens to be considered grounds for divorce).
im terrifies hes going to try to get his agreement to the divorce withdrawn. he actually filed for divorce, but i dont know what will happen if he tries to stop it.
has anyone had this happen? im so scared, if i cant get a divorce from him i dont know what i will do. any advice would be appreciated!
thank you all

You CAN get a divorce from him. Whether it happens now, or two years from now, you CAN have it. So don't let yourself get too focused on WHEN this is going to occur. You have already acheived most of the work that is most important to our daily lives: you are under separate roofs, have split up your personal belongings, have separate finances, etc. Try to focus on making each day a happy one. :-)
I can understand the frustration at not knowing, but it should, hopefully, be not a very big frustration? If he has filed, you have answered (making this an active case) and he tries to cancel out, there may be steps that you can take. Those legal details are a tad less important than the fact that you don't have to wake up next to him anymore, are they not? Look into your State laws, talk to your attorney, but most of all,
focus on living your new, independent life. It is time to practice no longer worrying or wondering what your Stbx is doing, feeling or saying. Practice freedom, and you will feel free.
I agree with rosemile.... you CAN get divorced, but WHEN might be the question.
I think this question would best be answered by an attorney (do you have one to represent you?)... or it's possible that if you call the court clerk, they might be able to give you some idea of what to expect at this point.
Good luck... and please do let us know how things progress.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
i appreciate the support
hugs to you!