DD's surgery and the x.... sigh.
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| Mon, 02-28-2005 - 10:02pm |
Hi guys,
This weekend was my x's weekend with the kids. Friday night he picked them up. Everything was fine, he was nice, I was nice.... we were all happy campers.
My daughter is having surgery tomorrow. She is 1 and we have a 6 year old as well. I have been scrambeling trying to find someone to watch my son so he can still go to school. He has missed about 10 days of school, mostly because of sickness, but 2 weeks ago we had a death in the family too.... so anyway, I thought that my X husband, since he doesn't want to go to the hospital to be with his daughter, would want to watch our son and take him to school Tuesday morning. ( daughters surgery is at 6am tomorrow morning ) So I call him yesterday after over a month of asking him if he will help out. The first thing he says is "GIVE ME ONE GOOD REASON WHY I SHOULD HELP YOU"... WHAT????? I said, what are you talking about? You wouldn't be helping me, you would get extra time with your son. He said I was being manipulative then proceeded to call me and my boyfriend "pieces of sh!t". He then went into how I am a "whore" and I "pop out a unit every 9 months" ( I have 2 children with him, ages 6 and 1 and I just had a baby boy in December with my boyfriend and now I am permanently "fixed" so I can't have anymore ) He then threatened my boyfriend by saying he would "knock his f-n teeth down his f-n throat", then he demanded we come and pick up the kids RIGHT NOW. So we did. Only he was SO angry that I decided we should call the cops. I HAD TO be there by 6pm, it was already 5:15 and we were skiing all day so we were about 45 mins away, I couldn't drop my BF off at home, X said I HAD TO be there by 6, or else... whatever that means. Normally he would drop the kids off at my house. That's the way it has been since August and we have NOT had a problem since a year and a half ago. AND he said all of this in front of my kids. I called the cops and had them meet me there and I filled out a report. He was so angry I honestly believed he would attack my BF if he saw him. I got my kids, put them in the car and left them in the car a few houses down with my BF while I got the report filled out. I got back in the car and my 6 year old said "what are all of those cop cars doing there?" I said.. it is the funniest thing! They are all meeting for dinner!..... He laughed and said REALLY??? I said yep and they invited us but I said we had to go to McDonald's!!!... he laughed again and was excited.
I am so frustrated with this whole thing. WHAT happened? WHY did he get so pissed off? I mean anytime I ask if he will spend extra time with both kids, he says no. He isn't working.... so why not have time??? Makes me so mad.
So now I am going to family court and getting support ordered. He agreed to pay child support in the divorce regardless of his job status.... and he has been out of work since just after Xmas. Hasn't paid a dime since. I am just tired of being crapped on by him. I don't deserve the names and the kids certainly do not deserve to hear that stuff come out of his mouth. I can hang up on him, the kids HAVE to listen.
I had to answer questions from my 6 year old about why daddy was saying those things to me.
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.
I have to go to bed.... I have to be up at 4am. Wish us luck and send little kisses to my baby girl.
Hugs,
Angelena


Wow... what a day, but I'm so glad that you took action and sent him the message that he won't treat you (or the kids) that way.
Good luck tomorrow.... let us know how it goes.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Good luck. I'll keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.
Lets us know how it goes.
K :)
Hey everyone, thanks for the well wishes.
My daughter is doing fine, the surgery was a success!
Thanks again and hugs to everyone!
Angelena