new here-should i proceed with divorce?
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new here-should i proceed with divorce?
| Wed, 05-11-2005 - 10:33pm |
To make a long story short I think I am at the end. I have been married almost 2 years. My husband suffers from depression. Prior to getting married he attempted suicide. He started seeing a psych. and taking meds and things seemed to get better. Periodically over the last year and a half he would go into funks and gamble a lot - one of the main reasons for me having a lot of anger toward him. For a brief time he started seeing a therapist. He revealed to me about abuse done to him as a young child - both physical and sexual. I decided to support him and stick by him. Recently again, he has gone off the deep end. I had to drive to Kansas City to pick him up because he had run out of money and was crying hysterically that he needed help. He even had suicidal thoughts again - talking about how he wanted to run his car into the back of a semi. He voluntarily went to a hospital and checked himself into an inpatient treatment program. After five days, he was released to come home and then was supposed to attend day sessions with group therapy etc. He has gone a couple of times, but continues to gamble incessantly. At the social workers mentioning, he refused to consider Gamblers Anon. He mentioned tonight stopping some of the meds and not going to the group sessions anymore because they make him feel worse. I have dealt with this on and off for almost 2 years and I am not sure how much more I can take both emotionally and financially. I am afraid to have children due to the insecurity I feel. Tonight he talked again about separating our finances ( I have control now) and was very cold to me. He said then maybe I could be free of all the problems that come with being married to him. I love him dearly, but I don't know at what point I will break. Any advice?

huge hugs! i went thru something similar, i was married (second marriage) for seven (loooooooong) years to someone who suffered from ..... depression, anxiety, i really don't know WHAT was wrong. the symptoms were definately depression , there was sexual issues, etc. for the entire time we were married he never worked - OSTENSIBLY he *worked* from home, but he never did anything, he was just home or on "business trips".
it's great that your husband is getting help but HE really needs to deal with all of HIS problems. i can't tell you what to do right now- but it would probably be a good idea for YOU to seek help for youself, in order to be able to focus on YOUR life and to decide if or not to stay,as well as some form of