His words exactly!!!

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Registered: 05-16-2005
His words exactly!!!
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Wed, 05-18-2005 - 4:24pm

His response: Im against therapy all together....... I just don't think the two of us are very compatible. I've made too many mistakes in this and it has turned you against me.

What am I to say to this? I guess there really isn't anything I can say. I think he mistakes me asking to work on this marriage as him being the good one. He's probably thinking that since I'm the one asking to make the marriage work, he must have no wrongs in this since I still want the marriage. That's not the case. I've been through even more hurt than he has. My marriage is just important to me. I have to get over it though. I'm not going to beg him to help me fix this marriage. I have to accept reality.
How do I disconnect from him emotionally, especially while we're coexisting in the same house?

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Wed, 05-18-2005 - 4:31pm

I am sorry to hear he won't go to counseling.

Coexisting in the same house is hard. My ex and I did it for just over three months. It was awful, but it did force us to work out the details of the divorce (that was much easier to talk about than the failure of the marriage, and I often changed the subject to that one) so when we did finally contact attorney's most everything was settled. You can't emotionally disconnect overnight, it is going to take a lot of effort and it will be more of a process than an occurance.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 05-19-2005 - 10:35am

Hello sev75... and Welcome to the board.


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