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| Thu, 05-19-2005 - 12:12pm |
Im starting to have second thoughts about going on the date on Saturday. The guy works with me. We dont work together but... Everyday he has to come in the office to clock in. He came in today and I looked at him dead in the face and something just turned me off. 1st I've never liked his cologne. I actually have a headache now. It was very strong today.
He's tall, dark, in his 30's, not bad looking but not really my type. I prefer tall, fair skinned. I do want someone older but right now I just dont want to settle at all. I want my dream guy. Someone I look at and get chills. He doesnt do it at all. And I think he smokes too. Not for me.
I spoke to him on the phone last night and I've noticed a pattern with him. When he says he will call back at a specific time he never does. I dont want anythink "serious" right not but Im positive he's still living with his childs mother. Also when he called, I heard a baby crying, I asked about it, he said it was his daughter, I asked how old, he said almost 2. Meanwhile I know he has a son and a daughter of school age. 3 kids and living with a baby's mother. OH NO. But I dont know the extent of the living arrangement b/c he did give me his home number this time.
But you know what right now as much as I would love to date I dont want to just date for the sake of dating with someone I know for sure there is no possibility of having anything solid with even down the line when i may be ready. That would be the case with him. No possible future at all. I want to get married, have more kids and Im not putting that aside for anybody. Sound familiar (firstamendment). So how do I let him know that this date or anything else for that matter isnt gonna happen! I dont wnat to hurt anyone's feelings.

be honest, just tell him that you thought you were ready and you just aren't. Tell him thanks anyway and move on.
I think you should listen to your gut....drama is just not in the cards for you these days, just say no to drama.....lol.