How do I bite my tongue
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| Sat, 05-21-2005 - 7:29pm |
He makes me so angry with his passive aggressive ways. The latest after he messed my birthday plans I had with my son and now he says he won't cover the weekend in June that I have to work. The original plan was that if a weekend came up that I had to work then we'd switch to accomodate it. He was being a jerk today and saying that he wasn't sure and that he would have to check the calendar. My parents agreed to cover it for me.
I work as a nurse in a hospital and I work three days a week from 7 am - 7 pm and he's giving me a huge hard time about it. He won't accomodate anything. Basically I'm supposed to quit my job to make things easier on him. I put in a request with my boss to always have tues and fridays off so that I'll always know which days during the week I have to work. We'll see how it goes.

>>>I thought that by giving him a break on that would mean he'd be more cooperative about taking care of them on the three lousy evenings I work.<<<
Never give him a break 'hoping' that he will return the favor. That is not an equal trade. He definitely gets something, you *might* get something. Unfair. If he has shown he will take advantage and be uncooperative, you need to protect yourself. Don't give him a break, period.
If he's refusing to help pay for adequate child care, that is cr*p. You don't ask. You demand, and you have the court order it and enforce it. If you have read many of my posts you will know I am all for being amicable, but if he wants to play hard ball you play hard ball. You will only be a doormat if you let yourself be that. If you stand strong and ask for what you need, and you are the CP, the courts will usually back you up.