Now I am upset.....

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Now I am upset.....
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Mon, 05-23-2005 - 9:08am

XH had the kids this past weekend, which was great. I have no complaints about that.


He brought the kids home yesterday and my son got out of the van with this big GI Joe toy. I smiled because I thought that his dad bought it for him. Needless to say my son told me that Grandma Debby bought it for him. ( my mom ) As most of you know I don't get along with my mother.


I asked XH, did the kids see my mother? He said yes and he saw my Aunt too. I said, thats a

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 05-23-2005 - 10:16am

Choices!... and she'll have to live with hers.


That does seem really odd.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Mon, 05-23-2005 - 11:03am

Thank you for reaffirming that I am not overreacting. I am glad they got to see B and K, but J would have liked to have atleast met his Aunt Carol. Of course my mother has only seen him maybe 4 times since he was born, if that.


I guess I am just mad because they did go over me, like I would have told them no or something.... I would never do that.


I can't even picture the situation, my mom, my Aunt, DD and DS, XH and OW. How very weird would that be?


Your right, she is missing out. All her choice too.


Another issue to deal with, my mother and my aunt met OW. When OW gets upset at something I usually hear about how terrible I am, how much of white trash I am and what a terrible mother I am, I can't wait to hear what OW has to say about my family....... ugh! Pray OW stays out of it like she has been the last couple of weeks.....


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Mon, 05-23-2005 - 11:44am
I think that OW is probably getting a better look at what walking in shoes similar to yours must be like.... and can respect that... or so it seems.

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 06-14-2004
Tue, 05-24-2005 - 11:06am
Hugs to you, Angelena. I can imagine how upsetting it must be to have your family go 'behind your back' like that. Maybe you can use this as an opportunity to extend an olive branch to your mother and aunt, explain to them that you were hurt to find out they felt like they had to go to your ex to see your kids and that you would be open to them seeing all your children through you?
As for what anyone might have to say about you or your family... you can't control what anyone else is going to say about you, truth or lies. I know my ex and OW have spread some lies about me/warped the truth to make themselves look better in the past, and I doubt things are any different now. When I first found out about it, I was really upset, but when I heard about the lies I also heard that not everyone was buying the crap they were spewing. I realized that the people who matter to me have enough integrity and intelligence to see through the b.s., and if some people choose to believe them they aren't people I need in my life. Now the only people they need to spread lies to are strangers (since all our mutual acquaintances have already made up their minds about the situation), so why should I worry about what someone I've never met might or might not think about me.