My not even two year old ...

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My not even two year old ...
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Mon, 05-23-2005 - 2:15pm

Can't talk in complete sentences! While I know this isn't a big deal. To ex he seems to think that he's developmentall delayed (due to my Mom -- the ex-child care director -- watching him). Umm. He won't be two for another month. He has an extensive vocabulary -- isn't talking toatlly in two word sentences yet, but he's getting there -- such as down please, up please -- you get the idea. Anyhow ex tells me he KNOWS two years olds who can talk in complete sentences. How does he KNOW them? He works at a nursery (trees -- not kids) and there was some kid that came in there and was telling him all about Nemo and he was only 2. He was probably alomsot 3 -- for all I know. But he's now totally upset about the fact that our son can't talk in complete sentences.

what a putz.

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Mon, 05-23-2005 - 2:18pm

I have a 17 month old who doesn't talk in

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Mon, 05-23-2005 - 2:40pm
I agree with the cl, it's a good question for the pediatrician. Even with your ex being who he is, this is a normal thing for parents to be worried about. Usually consulting some books on child development, or finding some websites that give a range of when child should/might hit a certain developmental goal will help dispell some of these parenting concerns. His concerns/questions are valid, and as a parenting team it might be a good idea for you to both do a little research and agree to talk about it again once you both have a little more information. That would be a more effective approach than him accusing your mother of causing it, and you accusing him of knowing nothing.

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Mon, 05-23-2005 - 4:56pm

When my son (now 9) turned 2 he had a very limited vocabulary, 18 words as I recall. I was concerned but my pediatrician said that was at the very low end of what is considered normal and that it is common for 2nd and 3rd children to be late talkers because they don't NEED to verbally express what they want, the siblings tend to do it for them. I did worry some, but didn't need to...he is a very bright, high achieving child now. Still not a big talker but that's just his personality.

Hope this helps.

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Registered: 05-23-2005
Tue, 05-24-2005 - 10:38pm
Oh come on here! Plueeze! What's he expect the Gettesburg Address? Geeze, the kids not even two! My 2 1/2 year old still doesn't talk in whole sentences and he's FINE! My cousins child who is actually 3 months YOUNGER does speak in sentences. My first son didn't even walk until he was almost 15 months old - he's a 7yo 1st grader now that runs everywhere, plays football, and reads and does math at a 2nd grad level. In other words a totally normal 7yo! Children develop at their own pace. If he's expressing himself I wouldn't worry, sounds like a perfectly normal child to me.
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Tue, 05-24-2005 - 10:45pm

Teach him a sentence of 2 ABOUT his Dad .... ;)

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Wed, 05-25-2005 - 2:38pm

This post caught my attention and hit REALLY close to home. I got verbally attacked regarding this exact same issue at the exact same age of my dd. XH tends to compare our dd's with OW's daughter or with other children he knows (or she knows). I was told I was not a good mother because she was not talking enough (by their standards) by the age of 2, I was told the daycare she was in was not good for her, etc. etc. About a week after her 2nd birthday she just took off with her talking (lots of new words, putting several together, sentences, etc.). So have a brief chat with your pediatrician if things do not improve or if it will ease your mind, but do not lose any sleep over it at this point. All children develop at their own pace and while some do need special attention, I do not believe what you have described is a child with a speech problem. You have want to have his hearing checked to rule out any problems, but again, it's not something I think needs to be done right away.

Take care.

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Registered: 12-16-2004
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 4:12pm

See, that's the thing though. His doctor is not worried about it. His hearing is fine, in fact he has super sonic hearing. seriously. he's so smart. he'll follow directions, can point out a million different things (OK, probably not that many), but he's just mad because my Mom watches him. He's mad he's not in day care full time. Starting in 2 weeks he'll be going 2 days per week, and then probably more in the fall, but still, come on. That's the whole thing. Is he supposed to be reciting poetry?
Yesterday I told him he was getting a new bed (a fire truck bed) soon (for his birthday on July 1). He calls most vehicles "go's" and later last night was telling me go, and pointing upstairs to his room and I said, what, your fire truck bed? And he said "huh" (his version of yes) .. i had to tell him it wasn't here yet.
Also, we're going to Disney World next week (don't even get me started on the ex and his involvement there -- I'm still half expecting him to make up some like about me not coming home to keep me from going) .. anyhow if you ask him how we're getting to Disney, he'll point up and say "Sky" .. so he and my Mom were taking a friend of hers to the airport this afternoon and this morning i told him that he and grandma were going to the airport today and he said mickey .. I had to tell him, no we weren't going ot see mickey today, but these are examples of how he is smart .. just because he doesn't talk in complete sentences. I swear he's just ognig to drive me nuts.

He also told me I had to have our son call him at the same time every night while we were on vacation because in the divorce decree it says he can have ample contact with him -- so I have to have him call him before bed every night even though we're on vacation ... if i miss one night he'll call the courts and tell them that I kidnapped him. Tell me this isn't a man with problems.

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Wed, 05-25-2005 - 10:21pm
Ok, he's definitely a man with problems, I'll agree with you there. But it's not unusual to want to have more phone contact when the other parent is away on vacation. It's also completely normal for one parent to be more freaked out about development milestones than the other parent, and it's usually the less informed parent that is more freaked out. This happens with married couples too. Have you suggested he read up on milestones? Has he called the doctor to talk to him/her? He's not stupid for having these concerns, he just way over-reacts to them.

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Sat, 05-28-2005 - 8:48pm

My goodness... my DS didn't utter much until he was knocking on the door of 3!


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