He's Coming Back

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Registered: 04-09-2003
He's Coming Back
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Thu, 05-26-2005 - 9:32pm

Okay...about 3 weeks ago I had a talk with my ex and explained my feelings to him. He basically had the same feelings in return, but we decided to start off as friends.

Well, last Sunday he invited me and our dd over to his house and then out to dinner. We talked and laughed and it just felt like we were a family again. He ended up back at my house, where he stayed from three days (invited by the way). He works 14 hour shifts three days a week, so I won't see him until Saturday afternoon.

We have decided to go to counceling and try to work out everything. I have taken ownership of my end of the divorce and he has done the same. He has also taken great steps in his behavior and language, not to mention the drinking.

We are going out of town Saturday to see his mother and sister and going to spend a few days just for us and having fun.

Everything seems to be going really well and I'm trying not to rush or push anything. I keep wondering if this is just a honeymoon phase or something though. It doesn't seem like it. We have both been straight forward and honest with everything. He's not trying to wine and dine like the last time he came home before the divorce. We are actually being forthright and honest and very realistic. We're not talking about remarriage...we're talking about taking the steps to correct the problems that we had in order to properly move forward.

His family has accepted this and is being very supportive. I have kept mine in the dark so far. I feel guilty about it, but I'm scared. He understands though...my family is very pushy and doesn't like my ex. I'm scared of telling them b/c I'm scared they will be angry and not want anything to do with me anymore. I know they probably wouldn't go that far, but I know they will not believe that he is putting forth such a big effort.

So, basically, my question is how do I go about telling them all of this? Any suggestions (about any of this)?

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Thu, 05-26-2005 - 9:51pm

I envy you.......


Good luck to you sweetie, it will all work out.


Hugs,


Angelena