Do you think this is normal?

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Registered: 10-20-2004
Do you think this is normal?
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Sat, 05-28-2005 - 12:59pm
my marriage was over for probably a good two years before he moved out. i felt relief and sadness etc. now, even though i don't love him and even though i feel stressed when i am in his presence for less than five minutes, every now and then i get a case of the "if onlys" and "what ifs" -- i wonder if this happens to any of you. i didn't get that in the first six months at all -- i was just so angry at him for the way he treated me and even the kids (elbow off the table, close your mouth when you chew -- constantly)and relieved that we could finally relax. maybe those times are becoming distant (he left last summer) and a few months ago i found out he has a gf with whom he's serious - and the odds are she was in his life before he left -- anyway, just wondering if anyone split, wasn't in love anymore -- but got those what ifs, etc.
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Registered: 03-06-2005
Sat, 05-28-2005 - 1:25pm

Oh yes..... we all get those I think.


Heck, I still do. I know I am not in love with him anymore but I still think about the what if's. My ex has been gone since 7/31/03 ( funny I will never forget that date )


I guess for me, I think about it then I don't think about it..... like, when I start to think about it I move on to thinking about the future, and how much happier we are now than when we were with XH. That usually gets those thoughts out of my head.


Hugs,


Angelena