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Aggravated
| Tue, 06-07-2005 - 11:38am |
I am pretty aggravated that I can't post what is going on with me on these boards because of certain people who linger that are involved in my personal life.
Although I have an SO who is WONDERFUL, he just doesn't understand divorce and my feelings on certain things because he doesn't experience it. I like having people who know what I am going through to talk to. Now that is ruined and I am angry about it. There are about a billion things going on right now that I could totally use some advice on, but because OW, my mother and god knows who else lurks on this board I don't want to say anything because my feelings apparently offend those people, good or bad.
UGH!


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Why do you have to lock up your frustations. This is where you should be able to let it all out. Why are your mom and ow circling on these boards. My email is bredgirl2004@aol.com if you want to talk.
nolson_golden
Proud Parent of 3: Tiara, Tawnya and Tannessa
Grandmother of 2: Richard and Matthew
Hi guys,
Didn't see your new post until I'd sent my 1st one...
Your family-maybe let a little time pass and if you want to, try to extend an olive branch. If it doesn't work, or you don't want to give it a try, maybe just accept that not all families can be close, and that it's better to have people in your life that are positive.
OW-how unfortunate that happened just as things are getting better between you two. But it was out of your control, and your son may have thought that if he stuck to his guns his dad would be able to go instead of OW. Give her a little time to get over the hurt feelings and she'll probably come to realize that kids are unpredictable and that she shouldn't take the 'rejection' too personally.
The divorce-I'm expecting my papers any day now too, and am sure I'll feel some mixed emotions when they arrive because they will be final closure on the past. My ex did a lot of lying over the years, and at first I was so angry, and I made myself sick trying to rethink everything and figure out what was real and what was a lie and re-evaluating certain events to try to find hidden meaning. I came to the conclusion that I'll never know the answers to certain questions, because the answers would have to come from him, and I know he's a liar so even if I were to get answers from him I couldn't believe what he said. I can't know whether it was just me or whether he'll continue the pattern in the future, and it really doesn't matter because his future is not my future. Rehashing the past wasn't getting me anywhere, so I focused on dealing with my jumble of emotions over my marriage ending. I had to accept and forgive myself for making a bad choice in him as a spouse, ignoring my gut instinct saying something was wrong, and accepting poor treatment for so many years. I'm never going to feel good about what happened in the past and I'm never going to think highly of my ex or OW, but I can try to move forward enough in my life that the past little effect on my life now.
-sang
Hi -
Looks like you got a few responses from the relatives, if that is what the deletions are about. That's just RUDE.
Anyway - just wanted to share something I learned from my STBX... "Once a cheater, always a cheater."
And the lies? I will never know how many thousands he told me. I don't even know if he ever loved me.
At least it is over, right? I get to file on the 29th...
L
ah yes, once a cheater always a cheater is right! I am finding out slowly but surely... I have learned A LOT about XH since our demise. It's amazing how much I believed.
oh well, right?
Hugs to you and good luck with filing :)
Angelena
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I don't think that's what it was. I unknowingly violated TOS with a post and it was pulled, and I think at least one other poster did the same.
-sang
Who said anything about my SO cheating?
Thanks for the post!
I have UNDENIABLE proof. Absolutely. No doubt about it. But I don't have closure. Nope. It still hurts, it still seems unbelieveable, even though I saw it with my own two eyes. Sometimes the heart rejects things the brain logically understands.
L
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