What would you do??

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Registered: 03-26-2003
What would you do??
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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 3:02pm

I just received an invitation to my best friend's daughters grad party. My fear is that she has also invited my ex and his new 'squeeze'. I really don't want to go to the party -- it's being held at a local park, so there would be no way to avoid them if they're there. We live in a very small town and it's horrible having her in my face.

So, should I ask if they're invited and then decide not to come? Should I contact ex and set up separate times for us to attend? Should I just make an excuse?

I know everyone doesn't have to walk on egg shells around me forever, but right now I'm standing up for myself and my feelings and I just don't want to be put thru this.

So, what would you do??

TIA,
Edie

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Registered: 07-28-2003
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 3:24pm

Since she's your best friend, give her a ring and ask her if she also invited your ex.

If she did invite the ex, I wouldn't discuss anything with her of any consequence relating to whether you go or not. Say 'thanks, just curious' and change the subject or get off the phone.

Decide on your own if you want to go.

If you do go, look smashing - positively, smashing.

If you decide not to go, send a card with some cash and wish the kid congratulations - and that day do something fun for yourself.

If she's your best friend, I would think she'd have the manners not to also invite your ex; however, people do things so their kids can get more presents.

I wouldn't call the ex. I wouldn't show my hand at all to anyone.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 06-10-2005 - 4:28pm

Hi Edie.... it's so good to see you!!!!


I would go.... but have a "Plan B", so that if things get uncomfortable you can dash "OH, I've got another event at 4:00, I've got to run, but I wanted to be sure I got to see you and say congrats!"


How about that?


Karen ~ wildlucky4me

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~