he's at it again ....
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he's at it again ....
| Tue, 08-16-2005 - 1:40pm |
Telling me he's calling DFS because my 19 year old brother watched him (in a pretty messy house) for 4 hours this morning. Saying that it's unsafe, and no 19 year old "kid" is watching HIS son .. nevermind that the median age of a babaysitter is 13 or 14 ... I mean come on. Saying that he could fall down because my brother isn't 1 nano second behind him and this and that and the other .. I am going to call DFS and see what they say of this scenario ... you think that's what I should do? I mean otherwise I could be in serious trouble because he cuaght me in a lie. Yes, I did lie to him. I told him my mom (his primary care giver) was leaving on Thursday evening. She left Sunday (he still thinks she left yesterday -- so hopefully he won't find out that someone else watched him yesterday) ... my dad is watching in Wednesday and Thursday. I'm watching him Friday. He said that he will sit at the house and make sure it's my dad watching him and that if my brother leaves the house or is at the house (never mind the fact that he actually LIVES there) that he'll call DFS and wait for them to show up.

Oh honey.....
He is trying to get a rise out of you, and it's working.
Let the threats go and worry about it when it happens.
I have dealt with DFS on 2 occassions recently complaining about my husbands girlfriend in the tub naked with my naked 2 year old daughter and taking a picture of it while posting it on the internet, they could not do anything for me..... The second thing is my ex husband left my 2 year old daughter in a van overnight alone while they slept in a camper. For that one, they opened a report and did a brief investigation that pretty much entailed that they interviewed XH and OW.... they believed XH's story in that he "rigged" a fan for the heat... so that made it ok in DFS's eyes.
I guess what I am saying is it has to be pretty bad in order for DFS to get involved. What is bad in our eyes, and I believe the above 2 ONLY instances I have ever had to deal with were bad enough, might not be grounds for a report and investigation to begin.
Don't let it get to you. He is trying to make you mad and it's working!
Hugs,
Angelena
even so, there is not enough "evidence" to do anything.
When he threatens stuff like that, just leave it be. Let him make the call and be turned down... then maybe he will shut up ;)
Hugs to you, I know it's not easy.
Angelena
and even sometimes, a messy house is not enough. I mean, unless the conditions are not up to par, like the
Well, I would say that you should just let him blow smoke and do what you want. You don't have to call him and check with him on who watches your son on YOUR time with him. Just like he does not have to check with you when your son is with him.
Its about trust and co-parenting. I guess its most hard when we have angry feelings towards the X spouse to separate those two things. Definitely, just let him blow and DONT let it get to you.