2 months of nc why am i missing him.....
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2 months of nc why am i missing him.....
| Tue, 08-23-2005 - 4:52pm |
What the heck is going on here. Lately Ive been thinking about my ex alot, even missing him a little. What is this about. I have surely done very well with the nc. So why now am I missing him. I mean I do still get the phone calls of someone just listening and then hanging up. I did catch him once in doing that. Could it be that subconsciously that's what my mind is thinking about.

You may be still grieving the loss of the relationship.
You took the words right out of my mouth ;)
I agree with this wholeheartedly.
You are sooooo right. I didnt think of it from that aspect. I surely dont miss the man that he IS. I guess I still cant believe that this IS who he really IS. The man I fell in love with and this man he is now are two completely different people. It's still hard to believe. Iam proud to say that I have successfully fought the urges Ive had lately to call him and for that that is a step forward.
Thanks to all of you guys.
Hugs and Kisses.
Absolutely you are missing the idea of him. It's hard to go from having him around to not having him in your life at all. The last time I spoke to my ex, he admitted to missing me and asked if he could call once in a while. At the time, I was too angry to say anything constructive and I think I may have added some expletives. But my answer was NO. As much as I missed being able to talk to him (we'd been together 13 years), I had to get past US as a concept. And talking to him would not help. I still slip and say "we" when I should say "I" but I am learning. What hurts now is when mutual friends ask me about him. I have to remind them that he is not part of my life and if they want to know, they should contact him. Of course, he cut off all ties to the mutual friends so they are dealing with their own grieving process.
Be strong. Many hugs!
Jenny
"Don't count the days, make the days count."
Not so much to hold on to the past but to improve the future. But thats not working . So I find myself feeling emotional and weak . Does it make any sense? Is he not staying in touch because he is still playing games, has another focus or just all about him???
UGH!!
I don't know about time healing all wounds.
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