This is it....

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Registered: 07-08-2004
This is it....
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Sat, 08-27-2005 - 8:35am

My STBX was served with the divorce papers yesterday. I found an apartment (VERY expensive, but thankfully, in the same school district), and started moving a few things in. My final move will be on 09/07.

Although we both know this is the right thing, I feel scared. Terrified. Lonely. Empty. I am scared of failing and falling flat on my face. What if I can't make it on my own? Lose my job? Feel lonely and sad for the rest of my life? Have regrets?

All I wanted from him was to come home a few nights a week and go to counseling. He just couldn't do it. And now it's over. And I am really hurting.

The case management date is 12/13. Wow. The divorce is really happening.

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Sat, 08-27-2005 - 8:46am

Although we both know this is the right thing, I feel scared. Terrified. Lonely. Empty. I am scared of failing and falling flat on my face. What if I can't make it on my own? Lose my job? Feel lonely and sad for the rest of my life? Have regrets?


Right now is a really unsure time.

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Registered: 07-23-2005
Sat, 08-27-2005 - 12:39pm
Good luck, you will be just fine and do very well. Just like I said in another post you are about to find out how strong you are and I know you will suprise yourself. It is empowering and yes scary, but don't waste your time thinking about the what if's and just make things happen for you one day at a time. Congratulations!
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Registered: 11-02-2004
Sat, 08-27-2005 - 12:49pm

Big Hugs.


I think you will find that this is the hardest time. Once you get out on your own and see that you are not failing or going to fall on your face, you will find that you can get through anything. You know this is the right thing. There isn't anything else you can do but prove to yourself that you can, and you will, make it.

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Sat, 08-27-2005 - 2:00pm
More big hugs your way! It's scary and strange but it is a good thing. The last posts were right -- it's better than staying in a marriage for more years, hoping you will get something from him that he may never give. You deserve more and you will get it. That's become my new motto and I have to repeat it every day. Give yourself the time to grieve but realize that you are strong and will get through it. One breath at a time.