My ex thinks it's all about HIM
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| Sun, 09-04-2005 - 12:00am |
OK, he won't pay his half of the medical/dental bills for the kids, but he has money to go out and buy a new TV!! I could kill him. Also we have to switch a weekend next month because I have to work (it's in our divorce agreement that he would do this if needed) and he hasn't emailed me back as to which weekend that we can switch. Grrrrrrr.
Also he wants to go to the coast to visit with his new GF and my 12 year old doesn't want to go, soooooo he's coming here and it's that jack ass's weekend. Of course I'm going to have Jake come home, frankly I don't want my kids around that judgemental b i t c h. Both my 12 and 13 year olds spent Friday night at friend's houses like they do every weekend they are with him and our oldest will be spending the day at his mother's tomorrow, oh how convient.
I'm so sick and tired of him boo-hooing about how he's doing it all and then when he does have them they aren't even there.

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Skamadchen,
That's a great question, I'd love to hear what outofmymind has to say!!!!
My X got the GF BEFORE the day he left....and he still, to this day, 2 years later, thinks everything is about him and how HE is the one taking care of the kids ( even though he is an every other weekend father and won't take them additional time EVER ) It's all about him.. period...I mean after all.... he is the God of the world, right?
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The girlfriend came after. I kept hoping that he'd get one before, but no such luck. Oh well got rid of him. He didn't want to live on his own so he's had a couple of girlfriends since the big separation last November.
Since the new GF arrived on the scene he doesn't want to pick them up before 8 at night, bitches about paying for their stuff. He has to travel a ways to see her every day so the gas must be killing him!! Oh well. I hope he moves and then he can just get the kids every other weekend. I hate him
It's very discouraging because every damn day there is something different. He's now making me out to be the bad guy because I want my son to take the bus to the high school on my days off unless I am on my way to town. I'm having a lot of money troubles right now so I have to budget my gas and only make trips to town if I absolutely have to.
This morning my 12 year old walked home because he didn't want to go to the GF's house for a BBQ. So I called the ex to see if he knew where his son was. He didn't, big surprise. I left him a message on his machine just telling him to think about days like today when he's dumping on me about my job schedule and how I manage the kids. I told him if it weren't for my job he wouldn't have money for new TV's and trips with GF because he'd be paying childsupport.
That got him over here in a big hurry to pick up his son. LOL
He WALKED home and your X didn't know where he was? Wow, that's not right at all......
Some people just don't know when to get it..... Why won't he put the kids first... sheesh.
Hang in there, hugs to you....
Angelena
Yeah, luckily we only live a mile apart and it was no big deal, but the point to me is that he shouldn't just assume that the kids came here, they could be anywhere. When they are at his house I make sure to have them call me and I will call their friend's houses to check up on them just so I know that they aren't running around after dark.
I left him a nasty message (I know I know BAD!) saying to remember days like today when he's harping about my work schedule or about me making the kids take the school bus rather than driving them.
ohmgosh, it's like, are they really ALL like that?!? This is just crazy! These losers sound just like mine (woops, I forget, he's no longer "mine"...woo-hoo!).
So I guess there's no solution to this, other than just trying to keep taking the high road. One thing that's helped me a bit to put all this stuff into perspective is to try and help out some of these folks who lost everything to Katrina. I've always been civic-minded, and STBX was not only not supportive, he would actually obstaculize my attempts to participate in community service.
Now, though, even while I'm going through so much hardship myself (and by myself, I mean my children who are in my care), I'm at least a little more free to go and do what my heart tells me is right to do. These men are just carriers of bad energy that we were stuck with only while we were married to them. Now, even if they're still doing all those selfish, senseless, cruel things they did then, at least we're no longer TIED to them by anything but the children...and as long as we know in our hearts that we're putting the children first, nothing those morons can do can touch us (at least not how they're intending!).
All this having been said, though, I still can't quite figure out why I let him take all the good stuff when he left! :)
Well his latest deed was he sabataged my plans with the kids. I wanted them all to go with me to the fair. He didn't tell our oldest that I was taking them and he made plans with his grandmother. Not only that, but he wanted me to drive all the way to her house to pick him up. I was taking the kids to the fair 3 counties over!!!! His grandmother drove him back home right around the time we were getting back.
The kicker of the whole thing is that nobody asked me about my son's plans and it was my day to have him. I thnk my ex screwed him over while trying to screw me over. He missed out on a fun time.
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