Not allowed to see boyfriend????
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| Tue, 09-06-2005 - 1:20pm |
Hi everyone...
Im recently divorced, and my ex husband has sole custody right now. We plan to go back to court in a bit to work out a joint custody arrangement. Anyways, things have been fine, and I see my kids regularly. The problem is this...I havent ever introduced my kids to anyone I date. Never have and didnt want too. i dont want tdifferent men in and out of their lives etc. However, now I have become serious with a man I have been seeing for months, and I would like them too meet. Problem is, my ex says that he doesnt want the children around anyone he doesnt know. This man I see is a fine upsatnding citizen, its not as if he is some criminal. Since my ex has sole custody, does he have the right to tell me that my boyfriend cant meet my kids? Please help...any input would be great. THANKS

"We plan to go back to court in a bit to work out a joint custody arrangement."
What is the harm in waiting until you have worked things out permanently? Even if there is only a slight chance that this could be detrimental to your gaining some custody, that's too big a chance to take when dealing with an issue SO important. Get your attorney up and rolling. Good luck.
That may change everything. You didn't "lose" custody due to anything you did wrong or neglected to do right. Basically means there's been no question of YOU as a parent, just of your health. That will inform the court's decision regarding your future custody schedule and anything re: the boyfriend, should it ever come up.
Check with your lawyer, if you have one. And best of luck.
Because - he has SOLE custody right now!!! The shoe is also on the other foot many times, but you don't see it because maybe 1 guy posts here every few months. If someone can't wait a few months to bring their BF around at the chance she could lose a chance at custody or have something written in the custody agreement that says BF can't have overnights while the kids are around, I think she needs to rethink things.
I'm not saying it's fair - who said life was fair? I'm just saying good judgment should prevail at this time.