Well im filing in the morning

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Registered: 08-16-2005
Well im filing in the morning
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Wed, 09-07-2005 - 7:08pm
Im so tired of the lying and cheating...H has been seeing someone and may possibly have a baby with her...people have told me they see them..anyways after going thru his fence sitting for 2 years im filing tomorrow morning...when should i tell my son he is 8??? H is gonna freak when he gets served...i cant wait...how did u and when did u break it to your kids..i only have one but how do u go get another woman PG when u are still married??? god i am furious wish me luck please and i will be around...K
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Registered: 07-14-2003
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 9:28pm

Best of luck, K. We told the kids while I was shopping for apartments. We moved about a month later. He may well freak - will you be safe when he's served? Set up a safety plan, especially if he doesn't know it's coming.

Take care of yourself during this difficult time, and if you have a chance, pamper youself a bit after you file. So sorry you're going through this.

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 10:04pm

Hugs to you.


Feel strong in this time, not many people can deal with fence sitting for 2 years. Congrats for making it through that. The good news is that is the worst part of all of this.... the fence.... tough tough times, that's for sure.


Telling your child..... well, just be honest and assure your child that neither parent is at fault and never ever talk bad about the other parent. Assure that it was a joint decision ( even if it wasn't ) stay civil around the child, be the bigger person and ALWAYS talk positively about your STBX. If you stick to these rules, your child will be happy and emotionally ok with the decision. You will get questions, answer them using the above rules. Just remember that stability, boundaries and love is what your child needs. Keep an even tone.... you will do just fine :)


Hugs to you and good luck.


Angelena










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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 09-08-2005 - 7:23am

Well.... freak or not.... he should see this coming.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~