Have I COMPLETELY Lost My Mind

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Registered: 09-13-2005
Have I COMPLETELY Lost My Mind
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Tue, 09-13-2005 - 1:40am
I think I have finaly lost it. My Husband and I have been having problems most of our 13 year marriage, and have always agreed to work at it. 3 months ago things started going down hill again, and once again we talked about divorce and decided to work on our marriage. Then I found out that he had began a new relationship with a woman with whom he had a relationship with seven years ago, and thats why things started going downhill. Well I decided I was not going to be a dormat anymore and told him I wanted a divorce. He has agreed and we have pretty much been friendly about the whole thing. The problem is is that we are still having sex. Actually we are having better sex now than we have ever had in our marriage. I am enjoying it but am wondering if maybe deep down this is a way of holding on. I really don't want to be married to him. I feel hurt, angry and betrayed. I think he was being selfish and not considering what his actions would do to our daughters and our 5 month old son. But for some reason we fall into bed everytime he comes over. Is this normal?
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 7:27am

Hi there.... and Welcome to the board.


I do think that what you're feeling is "normal" about wanting to have sex with him... and vise versa.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 06-17-2004
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 9:17am

This is such a tough spot to be in. You've really got to ask yourself what the effect is going to be on you in the long term if this keeps up. It could be a subconscious way of holding on, after all, 13 years is quite a long time. That, and it's just something that you are used to, so it's probably comforting to you. Change is hard, especially when that change is a divorce, this behavior makes that change a little less traumatic for you. However, it is a

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