Sad Times Masectomy & Pending Divorce
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Sad Times Masectomy & Pending Divorce
| Fri, 09-16-2005 - 2:35pm |
I am so freaked out. I have no money but I have been putting up with so much pain and mental torture from my husband of 16 years that i have to end this marriage at all costs. I just don't know where to start. A few years ago we went through bankruptcy, so if I were made to sell my house I'd never get another. my mortgage is only 575 a month and rents here now are 800-900 for even a 2 bedroom apartment. I have 2 kids (young teens)
I have only been working part time since I had them.
I posted this on another board, sorry it is long but it will explain my situation. I tried calling lawyers, legal clinics etc. today but so far 2 were closed on Fridays and one will call me back. I just had to come here to talk with someone so I wouldn't implode with crying. I am so sad he has to be this way. Here is the story: Basically He had an affair 5 years back. It ended, he told me about it and that he had made a big mistake and he wanted to come home, plug back in to the marriage. I took him back and for awhile thought things wer going to be better. I even thought we were pretty close and started to consider him my best friend. Then he started going through career swings. He is a musican in middle age..so you can figure that one out. All of the sudden this summer he gained popularity again and he became mister cool once more. I had been noticin ga steady decline in our sex life on top of it all. THEN...I found out I had breast cancer. He has been horrible to me in ways I can't even begin to explain. In the end I had the masectomy which was fine.I was so glad just to be alive and fine afterwards...it was dealing with him that was devestating to me. He has been 5 weeks now not able to look at me naked, repulsed by me the whole works and now I fear he is seeing someone again.
I want to do things calmly for my kids, but I'm afraid he will play dirty and try to make me lose my house. Where do I start? What are my chances with such bad credit keeping my house? I don't know how in heck I'm going to protect myself or even afford a lawyer that is any good.
I have only been working part time since I had them.
I posted this on another board, sorry it is long but it will explain my situation. I tried calling lawyers, legal clinics etc. today but so far 2 were closed on Fridays and one will call me back. I just had to come here to talk with someone so I wouldn't implode with crying. I am so sad he has to be this way. Here is the story: Basically He had an affair 5 years back. It ended, he told me about it and that he had made a big mistake and he wanted to come home, plug back in to the marriage. I took him back and for awhile thought things wer going to be better. I even thought we were pretty close and started to consider him my best friend. Then he started going through career swings. He is a musican in middle age..so you can figure that one out. All of the sudden this summer he gained popularity again and he became mister cool once more. I had been noticin ga steady decline in our sex life on top of it all. THEN...I found out I had breast cancer. He has been horrible to me in ways I can't even begin to explain. In the end I had the masectomy which was fine.I was so glad just to be alive and fine afterwards...it was dealing with him that was devestating to me. He has been 5 weeks now not able to look at me naked, repulsed by me the whole works and now I fear he is seeing someone again.
I want to do things calmly for my kids, but I'm afraid he will play dirty and try to make me lose my house. Where do I start? What are my chances with such bad credit keeping my house? I don't know how in heck I'm going to protect myself or even afford a lawyer that is any good.

HUGS!