Am I obligated to tell him??

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Registered: 12-16-2004
Am I obligated to tell him??
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Mon, 09-19-2005 - 12:03pm

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OK. Here's the situation. My mom watches my son the majority of the time. He goes to parents day out Tuesdays and Wednesdays from 9:30-2:30. My ex picks him up on Tuesday afternoons from school and I pick him up from him. Starting mid-october, my Mom will be going to another lady's house to watch her baby (born in July) and taking my son with her. She'll just be watching the baby Monday-Wednesday. So really, son will only be over there full-time one day. Am I obligated to tell my ex about this (we have joint-legal custody, I have sole physical custody). . . I think i'll tell him just because I'll feel guilty if I don't. But I'm so afraid he'll say that he won't allow that.

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Mon, 09-19-2005 - 12:25pm

When you say "So really, son will only be over there full-time one day." do you mean at the other person's house with your mom on Wednesdays?

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Registered: 01-23-2004
Mon, 09-19-2005 - 12:26pm
I would tell him but I wouldn't worry about him saying that he won't allow it. In general, the courts won't let one parent just say they don't like something. If he doesn't like that situation he would have to come up with an alternative situation that he prefers. If he does say he has a problem with the situation, I would just ask him if he has a better alternative. Chances are that he won't be able to argue unless he has a better solution.
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Registered: 12-16-2004
Mon, 09-19-2005 - 12:35pm
Well he called me to discuss something else, and I told him about it. And he said that he really didn't have a say in it, and asked if I thought my mother (who used to be director of a child care center) was capible of watching 2 kids at once -- I said yes, he said that he was OK with it. Mostly I told him because I know if I didn't, and then he found out later, he'd accuse me of "lying" to him, and make a big stink about it. I'm impresse that he didn't, and feel good about having told him.
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Registered: 02-19-2004
Mon, 09-19-2005 - 12:51pm

Wow, that's great that it didn't cause a fight.

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