2 yrs today- 2 crazy things happened....

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Registered: 06-11-2004
2 yrs today- 2 crazy things happened....
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Fri, 03-17-2006 - 9:26am

the first began last night. I had to call ex to tell him what day he could get the baby for his make up visit. I wanted Sunday and ofcourse he said he couldnt do it but could Saturday. At first I said I'd have to let him know b/c it ticked me off that he never wants to do it on days that are convenient for me. We got cutoff, then the baby said wanna talk to daddy. I wanted to cry b/c it stung a little but I called him back, told him to hold on and gave the baby the phone. Ex seemed to be very excited, what he didnt understand, I translated. Then it was it. About 45min later I called him back and told him he could get him tomorrow. Him and the baby talked again and surprisingly him and I had a civil conversation. The first one started off a bit rocky but on the whole it was a success.

Today is the anniversary of d-day. 2 years. Wow, I woke up feeling good. Got to work but didnt have time to get coffee so when someone came in I volunteered to go. Well a while back I had posted that the ow goes to the same clinic and has the same dr my son does for her girls. The clinic is right next door to my job. I had to go pick up a referral for the baby for an allergy dr and when walking towards the clinic low and behold, who do I see.

The OW with the twins and her other son. We made eye contact. I went in the clinic as planned and I have to say my heart was beating a bit faster than normal. This is the first time Ive seen her since a little over a yr ago, at the time I didnt even know she was pregnant and she was as arrogant as I dont know what. It's amazing how what goes around comes around. She's pushing a double stroller and he's no where to be found. She was pushing them pass me and could'nt quite get through as there were some chairs in the way so I moved one of them out the way and as she walked pass me she uttered a thank you, I uttered a welcome.

She is also driving his truck which he says he sold, it has a different license plate # from when he had it. I have to say to see her driving the truck stung me. Ive been strugling trying to buy a car but cant afford it, and now this is the second car he gives to her. But I was the one who gave him over 5 yrs of my life and he put me through hell. He has always claimed she helped him to buy both vehicles, and he sold her the car, well now she has the truck too.

All in all Im still in good spirits, but I do feel a bit nautious and it does kinda hurt a bit but......

I just hope nothing else crazy or surprising happens today, or tomorrow. I think I've had enough for the two days in a row.

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Fri, 03-17-2006 - 9:42am

That's an awful lot to deal with on the two year "anniversary," when your feeling and emotions are already raw. But you handled yourself very well! You should be proud.


I know what you mean about having things sting. My STBX is closing on his new house today. I am very glad he is getting a new home (moving out of his temporary air mattress in his friend's living room!), but it does sting a bit. I have no idea when I will actually be able to purchase another home. BUT..I am just trying to remind myself, this is going to be a

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Registered: 06-11-2004
Fri, 03-17-2006 - 10:07am

Tell me about it. The baby was happy to talk to him and I was happy for him but it was a reminder of all the dreams that never happened. I do know that ex enjoyed it as well. Damn, I was expecting to see her since I found out she was going there, just wasnt expecting it to be today of all days. I mean the karma bus did her well. Sometimes I feel he dogged her worse than me. He didnt even stay with her through her pregnancy. He went with her to the hospital and all but left when she was 4 mths pregnant. I used to hate her with a passion due to her extreme arrogance, she looks to have a totally different tune now and Im sure she was embarassed and feeling some of the same feelings I felt too. She now knows exactly what I went through as she has as well. I dont hate her anymore, she was a "victim" if that's the right word as I was.

I am proud of the way I handled it though. I know all of the girls in the clinic well and they know some of the story, one of them had asked me if I was okay and I thought that was sweet and assured her I was fine.

Thanks for your reply. I continue to pray and say that someday will be ours, to buy that new house, car, and get all the wonderful things we so righfully deserve.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 03-17-2006 - 4:09pm
Wow!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~