Forging bank statements.....

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Forging bank statements.....
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Sat, 03-18-2006 - 1:19pm

As much as I don't want to find things out, people end up telling me more unbelievable things about my STBX.

Last night I went for drinks with some of my girlfriends. One girl, "Carrie" told me this: Last Sunday my STBX called her husband "Bobby", and asked him if he had bank statements he could "borrow". Bobby told Carrie that my STBX was on his way over, she asked him why and he said, "It's so disgusting what he's doing I don't even want to tell you". Turns out, my STBX used Carrie's December bank statement and somehow is passing it off as his own to show his girlfriend. The reason? In December the STBX and I (this was two months before I knew about the affair), went to a wedding in a neighboring city (I was a bridesmaid) and got a hotel room there. I paid for the room with my bank card. The next morning we had breakfast and he used HIS bankcard. So, when sh** hit the fan in February, the OW asked me when we had been together the past few months (b/c STBX tells the OW that we have not been sleeping together, HA!) and I mentioned the wedding and the hotel room. He denied even being at the wedding with me. She went to my STBX's car and coincedentally found the hotel room receipt. This is great: she confronted him, he told her that I had planted the receipt in his car!!!! It's a brand new car that I don't even have keys to!!! So, I emailed her a link to my friends wedding pictures, which obviously show the date of the wedding and ME AND THE STBX ARE IN THE PICTURES!!!Apparantly, she freaked out (he finally admitted to being at the wedding, but denied spending the night with me) and the OW made him show her all his bank statements (b/c there are other times we have eaten out together which he paid for and he made up stories about those time too), except December is missing. Hmmmmm, I wonder if it's becasue the breakfast place we ate at is on there and he denies even being in that city the next morning. So, he is trying to prove that he had another bank account (at an entirely different bank) and trying to pass it off as his own, to prove to her that on that particular date (the morning after the wedding) he was in our town.

So, I'm amazed that Carrie let him do it, but the lack of integrity of people doesn't surprise me. She said she did it becasue in the end she knows it will all fall apart for him and if he continues to do ridiculous things like that it will just be worse.

Unbelievable.

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Sat, 03-18-2006 - 2:51pm

Oh.....my....God. You know, I have a lot I'd like to say about your STBX right now, but this is my first week as a co-cl, and I'd rather not get booted ;)


This man is REALLY something else. And seriously, is this OW blind? There's enough evidence to prove what a liar he is about 100 times over.


Be careful with this guy. He sounds like the kind of person that is more than willing to lie his head off during the divorce proceedings. Make sure you're well protected legally, and document everything!


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Registered: 03-29-2003
Sat, 03-18-2006 - 3:25pm

I can't believe someone would go to those lengths to try to convince someone they're not lying. Looks to me like the OW is really, really wanting to believe him and is wanting to hang onto the relationship. Yikes....

I would be careful, too, during the divorce proceedings. My ex is the type to say one thing and do another and he really screwed me over during and after the divorce because I trusted he had both our interests at heart - he didn't. Now I document everything he says, I print off e-mails and save them, etc., because co-parenting with the ex has been such a b****. His fiancee has seen some of his true colors and I think they are both so desperate to hold onto their relationship that they are turning a blind eye right now to many potential problems - sometimes I chuckle and think how interesting it would be to be a fly on the wall (there has been more than one instance where she got a pretty different story from me and has gone back to him to have a 'talk').

Well, I remind myself that's their business - best I can do is let go, know that I cannot control much of what is going on and just try to do my best for my son!

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Sat, 03-18-2006 - 3:26pm

Good advice, thank you, and I did read your reply about dating others during our divorce. We don't own a home together or have kids, but we do have some money together that we need to negotiate. He truly is a piece of sh**. So sad, he has changed so much, all of his family members are stunned.

The OW is a piece of trash. Not sure HOW much she believes him, obviously not if she's making him show her is bank statements....

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Registered: 05-05-2005
Sat, 03-18-2006 - 6:16pm

I'd have a real issue with my friend helping him that way, to be honest. Then telling me after the fact. For what reason?

I don't think she should have been party to the lie. She should have told him no.

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Registered: 03-08-2006
Sat, 03-18-2006 - 6:50pm

Absolutely unreal! For what it's worth, the OW will NEVER trust your STBX and I would imagine, will make for a miserable existence for both of them! My STBX lied to me about the number of times he was married (even lied on the marriage application!) and the number of kids he had. I found out six months after we were married and never believed a word he said after that! It was such a miserable feeling for me!