"Honeymoon" phase in DIVORCE?!?!

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Registered: 01-20-2005
"Honeymoon" phase in DIVORCE?!?!
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Sun, 03-19-2006 - 9:38pm

Today we (Me, STBX, & our 2 yr old) went to Walmart to get a few items and it turned in to a shopping spree.

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Sun, 03-19-2006 - 10:58pm

Funny, when I moved out, my situation is a little different though, my ex and I began to get along better COMPLETELY. He had been having an affair for 6 months at that time, and I think us getting along better scared the crap out of him. That's why he denied it all up until the very end....he wasn't sure he wanted to let me go.

TAKE ADVANTAGE OF HIS GENEROSITY!! Especially when he is doing things that will benefit the well being of your daughter. It doesn't matter what his intentions are, don't spend time thinking about it, you will never figure it out, focus on YOU.

Beanie

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Mon, 03-20-2006 - 6:17am
I'm in the same situation. My stbx helped me move, put together all of my furniture and electronics and just bought a computer armoire for me. He always asks if I want to go with him when he takes the girls somewhere and calls me for advice on everything. It is very bizarre. Our neighbors think this divorce is a joke because he tells everyone what a wonderful person and great mother I am. I think he is feeling better because he isn't obligated to me and can be around me by choice AND he doesn't have to carry the guilt over being with other women anymore. It's hard right now because he has to do his visitation at my house until he closes on his condo. I think the boundaries will be healthier once he moves. Here's hoping anyway.
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Registered: 03-11-2004
Mon, 03-20-2006 - 12:53pm
Crystal, It has been a year and I get along with my ex very well. (Wish we could have gotten along this well while we were married). Very scary. Make me miss him all the more. Don't know about a homeymoon phase, but I guess it's possible.
Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Mon, 03-20-2006 - 5:41pm

I think it TOTALLY depends on the individuals invloved, the situation, etc. My STBX and I have gone through getting along very well to some days close to a Jerry Springer episode! Right now, I'd say we're in semi-cordial mode...lol!


I hope this lasts for you! I am sure there are many ex couples that get along well and continue to be friends after a divorce.