He never answers his phone!

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Registered: 01-20-2005
He never answers his phone!
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Wed, 03-22-2006 - 10:01am

Ok, so how does everyone deal with their STBX/EX not answering their calls?!?! My STBX admits he doesn't answer his phone b/c he knows it's me "pestering" him. I get so frustrated. I am as you can imagine, a control freak....so hard to let go of.
I don't really need to reach him, I guess....I just am trying to get him to stay involved.

People have been telling me it will be a lot easier once we actually move out of the house and get separate places and I accept that I'll be a single Mom and he'll get to be the bachelor he wants to be.

I have to get over the fact that it is not important to him that our daughter is having her first dentist apt....even though it is exciting to me. I also have to get over the fact that he doesn't care where I am or what I am doing unless it means it is inconvienent to him b/c he has to pick the kid up.

Ahhhh, frustration! Thanks for letting me vent.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 10:31am

crystalnamelia...

Whether you realize it or not, Pianoguy thinks you answered all your questions!

If you're a pest, a control freak, and basically want things on "your terms"---what man (in his right mind) would want to respond to ANY of your phone calls? I know I wouldn't!

It's too bad your soon-to-be EX can't share the enthusiasm you have about your daughter's dental experience. Unfortunately, most men (married, single, divorced, separated) NEVER RESPOND the way their female companions expect them too.

If Dad is picking his daughter up after the appointment is over...he'll (no doubt) ask HER how things went?

Pianoguy

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 12:02pm
Yep, you answered you own question (or commented to your own statement). He is going to be as involved or uninvolved as HE wants. You just have to accept it. He might actually get more involved once you back off because then he won't feel like he is doing what YOU want him to do. If he has email, just email the basic communication (any upcoming appointments or situations that might affect him) and only call for emergency.
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Registered: 01-20-2005
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 12:53pm

Ok so I admit I'm a spaz.

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Registered: 11-18-2003
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 1:14pm

You're not a spazz!

Hugs~ Lexi

"Shoot for the moon and if you miss you will still be among the stars" ~ Les Brown


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Registered: 01-20-2005
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 1:26pm

Well it's nice to hear I'm not the only one who has acted like this.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 3:03pm

I make my EX a list (sometimes a calendar page) that tells what's happening and when with the kids.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 10-27-2005
Wed, 03-22-2006 - 3:12pm

I know what you mean- my ex never picks up the phone. He tells me that anything I have to say, I can say on a voicemail. And when he does pick up, he greets me with "What"- how sweet! Oh, and if he's out with his girlfriend he won't even keep his phone on.
He's so mature.

Lainie