sick kid ex nowhere to be reached

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sick kid ex nowhere to be reached
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Thu, 03-23-2006 - 5:33pm
I got a call at work from the school nurse that my teenage son passed out in the hall. I had to find another nurse to take over for me so I could leave. Called the ex and he didn't answer the cell phone and he doesn't have voice mail. I found out later that his cell phone was left at home. He called me later all excited because the kids were home with me and that he didn't have to pick them up. Then he found out WHY. He seemed concerned, but not much so. He at least agreed to pick the kids up tomorrow by 6:00.
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Fri, 03-24-2006 - 9:56am
Aren't they lovely!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Fri, 03-24-2006 - 12:52pm

That is the worst! I hate when you try to get in touch with them, and they are nowhere to be found. How is your son doing today? Everything ok with him?


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Fri, 03-24-2006 - 5:41pm

He's fine now. I guessed that he probably had a low blood sugar. He didn't eat breakfast and it was pretty close to lunch. I took him to Subway and bought him a sandwich and drink and then took him to the doctor. They did an ECG, hematocrit and blood sugar which were all normal. The doctor went into this long winded explanation about the whole "vaso/vagal response". I just had to sit there and nod, little does he know that I'm a nurse. LOL.

I love it when the ex is NEVER able to be reached and either me or my mother are scrambling around to get the kids to the doctor. This is the second time I've been unable to get him when the kids needed medical care. But of course I don't do ANYTHING for the kids and am just a selfish witch for working full time to keep a roof over their heads and clothes on their back. But some good does come out of it. My son blames me for the divorce so it was good that I was able to show him that I'm there for him and that I care. They unload on me alot, but probably because they know I'm always there.

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Fri, 03-24-2006 - 8:23pm

Last week Spencer (4yo DS) busted his chin WIDE open at preschool. To make a long story short, he ended up with 13 stitches in his poor little chin and I had to take all three kids to the ER (fortunatly, my mom showed up to help me with them). My poor baby was crying for his dad b/c he was so scared (he NEVER asks for his dad, most often he says that he HATES his dad). So, after many many phone calls, his mom is finally able to reach him. So, he TEXT MESSAGES me to ask about Spencer!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh, and where is he??? He and The Skank had flown to Boston for St. Patricks day!!!! He didn't even bother to tell me he would be out of town, nothing at all! What's his reason for not telling me?? He says that his personal life is none of my business!!! Please!!! All I want is some emergancy contact info, idiot! Yeah, he's got some MAJOR control issues.


Well, Spencer got his stitches done on Wednesday. Other than the first text message he sent, I didn't hear from him again until SUNDAY NIGHT!!! Even then he didn't even bother to call, but sends another stupid text message!!!!! Not only that, but he didn't even remember being told that spencer was getting stitches!! Oh, but he SWEARS he didn't drink that much.......HA!


I tell you what, he is SUCH a loser!!! Obviously The Skank isn't much better b/c who on earth wants to be with a guy who goes on three vacations in 10 months, but has never taken his children ANYWHERE? Not only that, but he spends NO time with them b/c he's ALWAYS with her! Ugh........ Men stink!!!!

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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 8:36am

I'm so glad your son is feeling better. Hang in there, one day he will appreciate that you were/are the parent that is there for him.

Melanie

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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:07am
I can't say that's he's not around for the kids, he is. The problem I have is that he isn't around for these little emergencies and I get left holding the bag when it comes to things the kids need such as money to go places, doctor appointments, dentist appointments and picking up prescriptions. Not to mention that my vacations are always with the kids while he can go off for a week at his GF's house guilt free. I on the other hand have to twist his arm to pick the kids up on Friday night on HIS weekends. And guess who gets to be the hero in this scenerio? Not me I'll tell you that.
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Sat, 03-25-2006 - 9:28pm

AAACCCKKKK!!!!!!! THEY ARE ALL THE SAME!!!!!!!!


STBX does the exact same thing!!!! I have to take the kids to their doctor's appointment, to weekly therapy appointments, monthly meetings with the psych and family therapists, er visits, school field trips and doing volunteer stuff there (it is a non-profit preschool so the parents are expected to help out a bit more....I'm sorry, the PARENT-singular- is expected to help out more). Just like yours, mine goes off for vacations on weekends or a week at a time with The Skank. I was going to go on a trip to Ireland that I was going to get college credit for b/c it was a class trip. It was for May 15-30. I told him about it, what did he say? "Good luck with that! I'm not taking them for that long while you're off having fun!" HUH???!!! Every night he can go home from work, put his feet up and relax. What do I do??? Well, I'll give you yesterday as an example: Work from 7:15-11am, school from 11am-1:30pm, work from 1:30pm-5:30pm, pick up the kids at their preschool 14 miles away NO LATER than 6pm. Oh, let's not forget having to run into the store for milk and diapers!!!! See any time for a lunch break in there??? Nope! My lunch is a pb&j in the car while driving from class back to work while my jerk STBX is having a nice meal at a resturaunt with The Skank!!!!! GGGRRRRR!!!


And this moron doesn't understand why I don't want to be his best friend!!!!!!!!! Seriously! He's always texting me saying, "I just want to be your friend, I wanna help out!!" WHAT????? Oh, BTW, yesterday (friday) he was OFF OF WORK, yet he lied and told me he was working and couldn't help with the boys!!!!!!! But of course, today he shows up and takes them to a movie and buys new toys for them and takes them out for pizza while boring old mom is doing laundry! Somebody pinch me b/c this must be a nightmare!!!

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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 7:16am
Are you getting child support from this guy? I hope so! That's so unfair that you can't take a trip because he's a jacka$$. Sounds like my ex!! I have to lie in order to make sure he shows up on his weekends. A couple of weeks ago I told him that I needed for him to be on time on a Friday night (his weekend) because I had plans. He says he's NOT coming Friday night and that he wasn't sure what time he'd get there on Saturday because "we may have to work". Yeah right, his girlfriend wanted to go away shopping for the weekend. I had to actually go over to his house and get in his face about showing up. I don't get childsupport and if I'm never going to have time for myself he's going to pay. Plain and simple.