What ifs....
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What ifs....
| Mon, 03-27-2006 - 11:46am |
Ok, so just returned from my therpist's office.
And she told me to think about the what ifs...what if stbx and I got back to together?
what if we don't? what if he moves back to the same state? what if the kids want to live with him? what if I meet someone?
do you ladies have the what if's too?
and where is the line that turns the what ifs into no way in heck?
i'm more confused now, than i was eariler.

That's a tough one!
I do think that making a list to actually SEE is helpful... and you should start with the "pros" and "cons" of what your relationship was actually like prior to any divorce talk.... BUT.... thinking about all of the "what if's" AND writing them down.... can also help to sort through it all.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
I know it can be confusing and even heartbreaking to do, but I think it's a good exercise. Looking at a list of pros and cons in black-and-white can be VERY helpful.
I think at some point, we have all had the "what ifs." However, I think most of us know, deep down, if reconciling is really the best thing. After you look at your list, ask yourself if getting back together is what you really and truly want. If you can honestly see yourself prosper in a long, healthy marriage with this man. You may be surprised how you feel after your what if exercise!
What lies behind us and lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. - Ralph Waldo Emerson