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| Sun, 04-02-2006 - 10:44pm |
Need your advice on the best way to move forward. I've been wanting out of my marriage for a while but afraid to do it. Finally DH brought it up tonight and we pretty much decided that we want to end it.
Now, I have no idea what to do. He is bipolar and normally would be so angry (if I brought this up) and unreasonable. But he is the one bringing this up now. Can we mediate? We have a ton of debt (which I managed to reduce significantly trying to prepare for this day) and a house that will take forever to unload for anywhere near what we should get with the market around here. AND the big thing is 2 pre-school age children.
Is it safe to choose mediation? Should I get a lawyer regardless? I don't have the money right now but can borrow from my father's estate if I have to. Right now he is saying I can have whatever I want - I'm not even asking for anything yet - but I'm afraid when it really sinks in that he loves me still and its not reciprical that he will change his mind. I really want to do this in a mutually fair way and hopefully stay "friends" to the degree of being involved with our children and getting along when we need to. Any advice?
I'm not even thinking about the day when this is officially over or how I will feel. Just need to think about figuring this out now in the best way for everyone.
Thanks for any advice.
Andrea

Hi Andrea....
Move fast!.... you've got to make as much progress as you can while he's in an agreeable state (of course, without seeming too greedy or insensitive).
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~