Actually had a conversation with my xh..
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| Wed, 04-05-2006 - 9:53pm |
I know... you are probably as shocked as I am... and you'll be even more so when I say that this thing lasted 40 minutes...
it started with an update on our doggie, the one we got when we were first married, who is sick right now (but is getting better), providing the update after the bloodwork was received back from the vet today...
we also discussed Joey for a large part of the conversation... he's been sick since Saturday and I thought he had this thing beat today and he went to school... but he got sick at school and had several trips to the bathroom... the good news is he didn't spike the fever he's had on and off (more on) since Saturday... as high as 103 at times... tonight it was 100, which is moving in the right direction... we went to the doctor on Monday and she said if it was still an issue today to bring him back in, but I didn't think it was this morning... of course, now I'm having second thoughts...
Then we talked about Joey's birthday trip... its a secret, but Joey will be spending his birthday at Disney this year... I'm so excited, I can hardly wait and hope that I can keep it a secret!
Which brought us into his announcement, he and ow are getting married come October... you know, I had had this feeling for a while... think I may have posted about it a couple of months ago... and he said that they have been engaged for a while, so perhaps my feelings were right on... BUT, they've set a date and are now letting everyone know. I have to give my xh points for letting me know the same day that he told his parents... and I heard it straight from him... and you know, I'm ok with it... I'm actually shocked how OK I am with it... it's odd... even offered congratulations and meant them...
Then I brought up the dreaded issue between us... child support... I went into is saying that I wanted to handle this as good as we could and not let the conversation get out of hand, but advised that I hadn't received any CS since November... had he sent any? Cause if so, he needs to be checking to see where it is... he took it better than I thought he would, and said he had sent some in Jan and Feb... told him I wanted to protect both of us--didn't want him not getting "credit" for sending something, that sort of thing... he also told me that he had received notification from the IRS that his tax refund will be diverted to me... that will pay off a nice portion, probably about a third, that he owes... ~if~ its true... I'm hoping, since we were having a nice and what seemed to be a genuine conversation, but I never know with him... keep your fingers crossed...
He also mentioned that he had received some information stating that victims of Katrina were not liable for child support for a year, starting in Sept 05... has anyone heard of this? I would think that I would have been notified somewhere, somehow along the line, but haven't heard anything of the sort... If anyone has any information, please fill me in... I've asked him to send a copy of the information, but we'll see when it gets here...
I'm actually shocked at how well I'm taking the news of his engagement and shocked at how well the child support discussion went... I'm hoping I see some proof (in my account), soon!
*hugs*
Julie

Well, well, well.... ain't that sweet as hunny?
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Hey Karen...
You know, I still have to admit that I'm shocked at how well this has all hit... I guess I'm further along in that area than I even imagined... yeah, me! LOL
I can completely understand some sort of deferment, as well... I mean, xh works for the City of New Orleans and they are just now apparently starting to get paid on a truly regular schedule again... but to not be liable for it at all sounded pretty fishy... I just want to see the information in writing, you know?
We wound up back at the doctor's today for a re-check and she did a more thorough exam than she had done earlier in the week, but is still confident that it is a virus causing all this havoc... Thank goodness for mil who was willing and able to watch Joey today (the original if Joey was well plan was to take him to the GA Aquarium) and will be able to watch him tomorrow too... I just couldn't send him back to school this week... his teacher called me to check on him today, though... I just thought that was so sweet...
And July... (blushing)... I haven't checked my email since Friday at work... but I'll try to take a peek tomorrow and get back to you... I'm really REALLY excited about the idea and hope we'll be able to participate!
*hugs*
Julie
Special Joey... special teacher.... what a deal! I mean, only a special teacher would make a call like that to a special child ;-)
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Yeah, I agree she's special... when I found out she was going to be his teacher, I was beyond excited... she's known him ever since he started there, at 3 1/2 months and really cares about him...
My plan B's become more restricted next week... as in its back to Mom and I, or my xh's aunt, who really is worrying me right now, because she worries ~too~ much about everyone... even now, with her nephews (Joey's uncles) being full grown adults, she won't eat before they do, just to make sure they have plenty... (although they may not eat until an hour after the rest of us have)...she was talking to him yesterday as we were leaving my xil's house, saying a little boy your age just shouldn't be this sick... and going on about it... blah blah blah... and I'm not saying that I'm not worried about Joey, but, we are doing all that we can... he even went to the doctor yesterday morning! I mean, what else can ~I~ do... some things just take time... on a brighter note, I just checked Joey's temperature and its a normal 98.6 right now, so I'm feeling optimistic about today... keep your fingers crossed! But you're right, it has been a blessing that if this had to happen, it did when there were others who were so willing and able to help... maybe xmil deserves flowers for this one... because it gave me such peace of mind to have him there... I'm sure you know what I mean...
And I know you were teasing about my email... you know, I work in the pool business and somewhere between two weeks ago Friday and now, the season started as far as our volume goes... add to that losing two people and having a bunch out this week (because it is spring break) and doing training for another group this week (taking at least one or two of the people in my position away from our "normal" job), its been hectic... I also got a stack of resumes I'm supposed to review today... it is kinda crazy...
Just another day in paradise...
Julie
Oh, I know... I'm not one of these that swoons over my kids (or anyone) when they're sick.... I believe that attitude plays a big part in how you feel... and if someone is telling how terrible you look and must feel, well... you tend to feel really bad (whether you really do or not!).
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~