Thanks for asking. Actually the baby came home early thursday from school with a fever. I took him to his Dr. Friday morning, she said to watch him over the next few days. I told her a little about the court situation and asked did she recommend him staying home for the weekend she said if the fever went down and he felt okay he could go out so I asked for a note just in case. She gave me one.
Saturday came and he still had the fever so I called ex to cancel and told him why and also told him he could have a make up the following saturday. No arguments, or complaints surprisingly.
I did call him later on in the day for the baby to talk to him, actually the baby asked to talk to him so he seemed happy about that, asked him how he was etc. Sunday he felt better so I sent him. When the baby hears he's going to see daddy, he also says he wants to see the gf. It's getting easier to hear. The exchange went off without a hitch. Again surprisingly but I was happy about it. (Maybe he's learning LOL and me too).
What got me is for the first time since the order he called me during his visit to let the baby talk to me on the phone. So all of the good advice I've gotten about me changing my attitude will eventually force him to change his might actually be working. Im so glad this weekend went off well.
The best of it all was when I went to pick him up the baby ran to me smiling. That is priceless.
Yep. It is amazaing how the act of changing YOUR behavior forces the other person to change as well. Not something we want to hear when we are mad because it feels like we are giving in, but it truly works.
Glad to hear that he let your son call you during the visit. You may ask attorney about setting up some phone visitation for dad during his off weeks. That way he doesn't go a full 2 weeks between contact with the child.
I mean I know things are far from perfect but baby steps are good as long as they are in the right direction. I just have to be ready for when he is in his foul mood and shows his dark side. The phone calls are good for the baby I feel because that keeps a connection between them when he doesnt see him. Ive actually been making the phone calls like three days in between to let him talk to the baby on the phone. But that is something to consider asking the attorney about.
Hey step2little,
Thanks for asking. Actually the baby came home early thursday from school with a fever. I took him to his Dr. Friday morning, she said to watch him over the next few days. I told her a little about the court situation and asked did she recommend him staying home for the weekend she said if the fever went down and he felt okay he could go out so I asked for a note just in case. She gave me one.
Saturday came and he still had the fever so I called ex to cancel and told him why and also told him he could have a make up the following saturday. No arguments, or complaints surprisingly.
I did call him later on in the day for the baby to talk to him, actually the baby asked to talk to him so he seemed happy about that, asked him how he was etc. Sunday he felt better so I sent him. When the baby hears he's going to see daddy, he also says he wants to see the gf. It's getting easier to hear. The exchange went off without a hitch. Again surprisingly but I was happy about it. (Maybe he's learning LOL and me too).
What got me is for the first time since the order he called me during his visit to let the baby talk to me on the phone. So all of the good advice I've gotten about me changing my attitude will eventually force him to change his might actually be working. Im so glad this weekend went off well.
The best of it all was when I went to pick him up the baby ran to me smiling. That is priceless.
Thanks for asking. How are things with you.
Yep. It is amazaing how the act of changing YOUR behavior forces the other person to change as well. Not something we want to hear when we are mad because it feels like we are giving in, but it truly works.
Glad to hear that he let your son call you during the visit. You may ask attorney about setting up some phone visitation for dad during his off weeks. That way he doesn't go a full 2 weeks between contact with the child.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
I mean I know things are far from perfect but baby steps are good as long as they are in the right direction. I just have to be ready for when he is in his foul mood and shows his dark side. The phone calls are good for the baby I feel because that keeps a connection between them when he doesnt see him. Ive actually been making the phone calls like three days in between to let him talk to the baby on the phone. But that is something to consider asking the attorney about.
Thanks for all the advice.
Better... thanks for asking.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Wow, but like you said the most important thing is you have your house and your lives. Glad it missed your house.
Things will get back to normal soon.