Appt Spinoff question
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| Tue, 04-11-2006 - 12:17pm |
Do you and your Ex spouse both take the child(ren) to their appointments?
I hate sitting in COURT with my Ex, there is no way I would attend any appointments or meetings with him. I take the children to the doctor, and give him a verbal report if he asks. I go to the school conferences that are regularly scheduled, and again give him a verbal report, and a copy of report cards... and he has been told to call them if he'd like to make appointments. None of which he has done. This is just one more thing to me that he takes for granted the REAL PARENTING, only to thrive on the fun visits to the park and McDonald's Playland.
Of course, as a married couple, *I* did this all then too... although I would usually drag him along to parent/teacher night.

What lies behind us and lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
I usually handle most of the "appointments"... but we're past the joint sessions thing.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Our kiddos are still young (2 and 7) so we both still go to most appointments. If we need to get in quickly for a sick child I sometimes take them alone since my job is more flexible. So far we've been able to schedule all well-child visits and school appointments at times when we can both make them without much hassle. STBX does miss more soccer practices and games than he likes - but that's what happens when one works in the service industry - you end up working when most others are off. I always encourage DD to call her dad after a game if he was at work.
I don't really have a problem doing these things with STBX. If anything it's more of a "Thank God I'm not going to be married to you anymore" feeling.
STBX makes what I consider bad decisions on a regular basis, but there's no doubt that he loves his children (all three of them).
OMG! The thought of my ex at an appointment with my kids makes me laugh. Even when we were married he never came with to an appointment and NEVER took the kids alone!!! He did ONCE come to a school conference for our DD when she was in second grade (she's in fifth now) and he just sat there. It's honestly no different at all, just easier because I don't have to listen to his lame excuses.
Melanie