Selfish

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Registered: 04-05-2007
Selfish
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Thu, 04-05-2007 - 11:54pm
I just had to get some of this off of my chest. I am 26 and my husband is 24. We recently went back to school (Him to undergrad/me to grad school). The whole relationship has been going down hill since we started school. He has been acting like his fellow 18 year old classmates, never home etc. Anyways, my mother recently passed away and then my grandmother had a stroke. My husband has not been supportive at all. I have been staying at my mothers home (about 1 hour away from our home) for the past 2 weeks. I have been taking care of my grandmother, dealing with burials, wills etc. My husband has not been here for about a week and a 1/2. And not only that but he has not called me and when he does he is obnoxious. I am just disgusted. This is the hardest time of my life, I am all alone and he is out partying in D.C. with his friends. I wanted to get divorced before this tradgedy but now I am almost certain. This is not acceptable. Our house is a pigpen, since I have not been there to clean. He has not paid a bill or done anything to help me. Like I said, he was selfish before but I expected some support during these times.
GRRR! Sorry, anyways I told him that I want a divorce. I only hope that we can get divorced quickly. I am young and beautiful and life is too short to stay with a man that is not right. I learned that from my mother ladies, she died at 58. I'm not going to waste my youth on him!
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Registered: 02-15-2007
In reply to: blondcutiepie
Fri, 04-06-2007 - 8:34am
Ah good luck hon. That is a lot to go on in your life right now. So sorry for you loss.
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Registered: 04-09-2007
In reply to: blondcutiepie
Mon, 04-09-2007 - 10:56pm
Who's selfish? I hope you meant him. You deserve a joyous youth, I hope you get yours in the end.
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Registered: 04-05-2007
In reply to: blondcutiepie
Tue, 04-10-2007 - 9:05pm
Oh yea I def. meant him. Now he is asking me for money and crying about his poverty. What bothers me most is how cold he is being about all of this. I wish that I never had to see him again-but sadly all of my stuff is at our apartment. I have been picking up bits and pieces here and there but it is hard. Not hard because I am sad about our marriage ending but hard because I am busy with school and caring for my grandmother. I am just so irritated! He would not even be in art school if I had not supported him, and NOW he is too good and "cool" for me! He denies that he is welcoming the seperation because of my current situation but I think that we all know why he wants out! My life has too much drama for him. For better or for worse huh? Ha
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Registered: 04-09-2007
In reply to: blondcutiepie
Tue, 04-10-2007 - 9:24pm
I would prepare myself for him to beg you not to divorce him at some point during your separation. It's obvious he needs someone to take care of him and he sees you as the person to do so. I am so sorry you are going through so much right now. Just remember when you don't think you can handle anymore, that is when you will find strength you never knew you had. Hang in there, it will get better.