He didn't show up

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Registered: 02-23-2006
He didn't show up
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Fri, 04-06-2007 - 4:07pm

hi all.

i went to court this morning, at 10 am. stbx was a no show. good for me. i asked for and got:

sole custody of my children

child support, to be withdrawn from his check, to include back child support.

health insurance for the children

and no more texting, emailing, vm's in an effort to harass and or intimidate me.

seven months to go, and i will be done with him for good.

thanks ladies for your support. i am sure stbx will be an a$$ once he gets served, so i will continue to post and post often.

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Fri, 04-06-2007 - 5:01pm

Great news for you - congratulations!

I'm hoping I get a similar outcome. I have a mediation meeting on Monday for the joint parenting agreement and a hearing with the judge in a couple weeks. My STBX is downright lazy and dragging his feet and it would be just like him not to show up.

Anyway, glad to hear some good news on the board today.

Carole

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Registered: 02-23-2006
Fri, 04-06-2007 - 9:14pm

apparently sole custody in my state is almost unheard of. i am very happy and very thankful tonight.

good luck to you mcc.

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Registered: 09-01-2005
Fri, 04-06-2007 - 10:11pm
Good for you! I hope you end up having a nice holiday weekend. Belinda
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 04-06-2007 - 11:13pm
That all sounds very good.... keep hangin'!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 11-28-2006
Sat, 04-07-2007 - 9:41am

Phew! So so painful to go through all this, but glad you got pretty much what you needed.

M

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Registered: 06-29-2006
Sat, 04-07-2007 - 5:56pm
Not to rain on your parade, but just how much financial support do you expect to get from what you describe as " a drunk who seldom, if ever works"?
Here's to hoping that you have some alternatives planned should it turn out that he will be residing in jail for the remainder of his life.
once.
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Registered: 02-23-2006
Sat, 04-07-2007 - 6:35pm

shortier

i don't care about his money. he is a drunk who sleeps on the couch. if he doesn't pay or quits his job, he'll sit his butt in jail. the court system does not take to kindly to men who don't pay their court ordered child support.

and if he doesn't pay or ends up in jail, i will work 3 jobs if i have to. the biggest victory for me is sole custody of my children. the rest is gravy.

and you didn't rain on my parade, but i hope that you try to look for a silver lining in your cloud. personally, i'm tired of pessimism.

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Sat, 04-07-2007 - 7:59pm
Wow, that rocks! I'm so glad you ended up doing well. In your case, sole custody is a necessity right now. Let the seven-month countdown begin!
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Registered: 10-24-2006
Mon, 04-09-2007 - 2:10pm

Hi!

I thought about you on Friday and over the weekend wondering what your outcome would be.

I am so very happy for you and I sincerely hope that this is the end of this nightmare for you. I know what you mean about working and mking due. It's not the important thing. All that mattered was the custody and that could not have gone better!! Whether or not he decides to straighten up (sober up), get grip and take care of his children is up to him. What really counts is that the kids are with you!!

You have gone through so much, I am so happy for you today. I'll bet your counting down those 7 months..!!

Thanks for letting us know the good news.

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Registered: 12-18-2006
Mon, 04-09-2007 - 3:58pm
Great news! Don't worry; your kids will be fine even if dad doesn't contribute. I have some very successful nieces and nephews as living proof! Just stay positive.