What do you think?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2007
What do you think?
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Sat, 04-07-2007 - 11:07pm

I came in from work one day, and my husband said he was no longer happy. He felt like he was living with a friend, not a wife, and he wanted a divorce. 5 days later, I had divorce papers in my hand.

One month later he said he wanted to work things out. He started calling, and coming around and everything seemed to be ok. Then suddenly it all stopped. No phone calls, no visits.....nothing. Then a few weeks later, he started calling again, and acting if nothing was wrong. When I asked him where he had been, he said he was super busy with work. This same pattern has happened again and again over the past 10 months. Currently we are in the part where I'm not hearing from him. Even though he filed for divorce, the ball seems to be in his court. I realize I'm allowing him to do this.

I still love him, I miss him horribly, even after all he has done. I have good days and bad days. It scares me to tell him, "go ahead with the divorce, you can't treat me like this." Because even after all he has done, I still want to work it out.

Any advice or support would be greatly appreciated!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sun, 04-08-2007 - 12:05am

Well.... I hate to say it, but.... that may be what you have to do.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 03-11-2004
Sun, 04-08-2007 - 10:51am
Big Hugs to You! I understand where you are coming from. Even though my divorce is final I would give anything to have my ex come home. My best recommendation is do what is in your heart. Good Luck! Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda