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pregnant and kicked out
| Sun, 04-08-2007 - 6:03pm |
hello everyone. I hope everyone's Easter was way better than mine! My husband decided to turn the car around half way into our commute to my families house for Easter brunch. Things got ugly and now I am sitting at my parents house wondering what to do.....To give you a quick background, we have been married for 6 months and are expecting a baby in 5 weeks. Our relationship began while he was overseas and we got married exactly a year after he had been home...Now I know there are a ton of things to be worried about with the little one arriving, but since the marriage, about once a month he goes into these "power trips". He kicks me out of the house(it is only his name on the mortgage), takes all my keys(to the car I drive), changes the locks, takes my bank card so I have no access to money and then leaves me to weep. (there are a TON more things to insert here, but I promised I would leave it quick) Now that the baby is going to be here, I don't think I can sit and wait for him to kick BOTH of us out...I just wish he would agree to counseling, which I have asked time and time again...I know that I am not the best wife right now and am extrememly hormonal, I just wish he would be more understanding. I don't know what I am asking for with this post, but I just wish someone could predict my future for me so I know what to do.... I guess I am not sure what to do???

hey there. thanks for the reply. i am planning on staying here with my family until i can get a place of my own. i did have somewhat of a conversation with him on the phone, and i was all apologetic and upset, he on the other hand, was as calm as can be. i don't get how this can not affect him. i do know that i need to put my baby first, and staying with my family is the safest and best thing to do. he is no longer with the military, but i wish he would get some kind of help. i have offered numerous times to go with him, but he refuses. i wish i knew what to do to help him and us..and our future...
thanks again for the reply and have a great night!
You should talk to an attorney ASAP to find out exactly what your rights and responsibilities are.... he cannot just kick you out, I don't care who's name is on the mortgage... and he can't leave you penniless either.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Candy,
You are the victim of domestic violence. Please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or visit their website at http://www.ndvh.org/. Your husband is using fear and threats to control you. That's not how a husband should treat his wife or his soon-to-be-born child. He needs help but you need to get help for you and your child.
Get help staying safe, get help from an attorney regarding your rights and responsibilities, and stay away from your husband until you have a plan for staying safe. A man who throws you out of the house in fits of anger has a violent temper. He has a problem and he needs help. If you ever find yourself being "shown the door" again please call the police and file a report. No one can help you if you don't ask for help.
Good luck.
CL-Wisdomtooth2020