So Exhausted
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| Thu, 04-12-2007 - 7:49pm |
I just got home from the collab meeting with STBX & the lawyers. To be honest, it's going... not well, but better than it could be, and yet I am so completely exhausted when i leave there.
We spent a lot of time going over current income and expenses in an attempt to look at support- of which i have been getting none. The problem is that the STBX can't discuss anything without adding his emotional baggage into the equation- so sitting there and listening to that and holding my tongue so as not to reply, defend, or counter-attack is really draining. I feel like the lawyers let him go on about this crap way too much- I would prefer 0 tolerance, but they tell me that's not possible.
The problem is that it's the end of the semester, I have a term paper due tomorrow that I haven't done much work on, I have 2 preschool kids here that need my attention and energy and I am SO drained. I find that after an "encounter" with the STBX, i am often out of commission for a good 24 hours. Does this happen to everyone? How do you manage it? I always bounce back, but losing a whole day to the emotional fallout of a 2 hour meeting is irritating.

cbote
i have very different circumstances than you, but yes, dealing with stbx is exhausting. and it takes me days to recover. my experience is more emotional blackmail than anything else. good luck with your paper. you will do fine.
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Hang in there. Is there any way that you could schedule your appointments for after any major assignments etc?
((((hugs and crossing all fingers and toes for some peace for you tonight)))))))
Rose
OH YES!!!!
We are walking the same walk. I have a 5 yo and 6 yo who need me, but I have to finish two projects for school tomorrow and I have mediation on Monday with an appt. with my lawyer tomorrow -- the only diff is you had your meeting before class, I have mine after. Wow!
And as for draining ... oh yeah ... I am still living with him and he is doing things that are pretty upsetting/worriesome. I don't feel like I can discuss anything with him without risking getting my head bitten off.
I was thinking of everything I have to get done (I have volunteer commitments for the kids, to boot) and I described my life as alternatively a train wreck or a demolition derby, both literally (the house is trashed since I haven't finished unpacking from our week away (the week he was *supposed* to move out) and have been overwhelmed with school work, tax prep and other stuff) and psychically!
So, I so feel for you and with you.
I guess we just have to gas up on caffiene and call friends for a moral lift and miraculously put one foot in front of the other!! I am amazed we are both able to do all we do!
Hugs to you!!!
M