when is it really over
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when is it really over
| Thu, 04-12-2007 - 10:00pm |
I had been married for 9 years. It was long 9 years. Full of lots of abuse from physical to mental and even sexual. The only good thing that happened was the birth of my 2 wonderful daughters. A little over a year ago i met somone special at the place whrre i work. We had alot in common and he showed me there was light at the end of my dark tunnel that i had been living in so long. I took it opun my self to get a retraining order and i packed up what little things that were mine and what my girls had and i left. i moved back home. In the mean time my ex was taking all his anger out on my new love. He did everything from shoot out his tail lights, spray paint profanity on his house, to even breaking out windows in his vehicle. That did it i thought i was going crazy. I found an attorney who would except my case and i filled for the divorce. The whole time i didnt have anyone to talk to. I spent alot of nights crying. And wondereing if it was really worth it. (through all of this i had moved out of my parents house into a place wher my bf and i share ) I wasnt sure if he would understand what i was going through so i didnt say anything and stayed strong for the kids. the divorce is finally over and i thought that would be the end. I was wrong. no things are just the same. My x hasnt seen his girls in 2 1/2 months and he expects everything to be the same. He cant even talk civil to me about anything. I am not not suppose to have any contact with him unless it is child related. which is fine but i want to know when the pain stops? he doesnt talk to me like a human. he talks down to me like i am a child or an animal or something. if there is anyone out there that is going through the same thing please let me know. i am looking for ppl to talk to. i feel like i am all alone out here. i have family but sometimes they arent much help. thanks. email me if u wish. ladydragon752003@yahoo.com

Hi there - I just wanted to send you some support. I was also in an abusive relationship but it did not evolve to point of danger that yours has. I found a great deal of support over on the recognizing somestic abuse board - also found under the Relationship Problems category. I would encourage you to visit that board. Also try calling a local domestic violence hotline, they can also provide you with the advice and support that you need, and also provide you with a court appointed advocate if need be.
(((Hugs to you and your children))))))
Rose