They attacked me...physically

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Registered: 03-26-2003
They attacked me...physically
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Wed, 04-18-2007 - 10:17am
So this happenned Thursday of last week...Giving you all the run down as quick as I can. Summing it up...STBX needed paperwork from me...nice to me all that day...picked the kids up from school (no problem there). DD called me and asked to get her ears pierced again...I said no (for my own good reasons, previosu infections etc.). I picked the kids up at 830. DD comes out with her ears pierced. Words are exchanged between STBX and I about how I clearly said No and why I said No. He told me he can do whatever he wants. (later found out that STBX's mother told DD, she doesnt ahve to listen to me, what she says goes...Ha...last I checked, Im her mother and they live with me!) Anyway STBX's sister comes into the argument, then his mom (his father usuallu tells them just to stay inside, but he wasnt there this time). Im getting called every name in the book and saying stuff back of course. (not quite sure why his mother is calling me a whore and trash when his son is the one doing everything) So, STBX's mom threw something at me (small but no clue what it was)...my reaction...flicked my cigarette UP towards them (they were on the front deck) (couldnt have had better aim if I had been trying and it really was accidental to actuall hit her with it). It hit her hair. No fire...nothing. STBX's sister comes down the steps screaming in my face. (meanwhile kids are in the car). Isaid she threw somethign at me first, they shoudlnt even be in this and that it was an accident. Regardless, STBX's mom comes down past her and starts hitting me. We went at it for onyl a few secs before the sister and him got in it too. Big all out brawl...3 against 1. All while the kids are screaming and pounding on the car windows for it to stop. He held me around my neck while someone just pounded away on my back (the kids told me it was their aunt) Its finally split up after STBX threw me on the ground. Now thsi wasnt enough for him. Because I got up to leave and he continued to slam me in my chest several times until I was eventually pushed back to the street. I left...trying to calm the kids down from what they just saw. They were obviously hysterical and scared to death. Kids just shoudlnt see stuff like that...all of their family too (Grandmom, aunt, father and mother...this is gonna be hard to undo). I cant believe they would start in our verbal argument let alone physically do what they did...I feel so bad for my kids that they saw this and we trsuted STBX to be civil (which is why I let him pick the kids up and we were VERY nice to each other all day) I dont know what happenned. I just think he's bipolar at least. But at least the kids know who started it and that his mom came at me, I was just defending myself for anything I did...the sister and STBX didnt have to jump in it too. We came home...called the cops (by my dads advice) because we found out they called the rescue squad for his mom to go to the hospital. GIVE ME A BREAK!!!! She was able to get up and scream some more at me while I was leaving, coudlnt have been hurt that bad...but apparently...needed to milk it (this isnt an old grandmom type...shes in her early 40's). SOOOOO now, I got a temp Protection from abuse and almost sure they'll do something else now. We go to court tomorrow already. Im just so exhausted over all this. They hurt my back pretty bad and the kids think about what they saw nonstop. I just hate this guy so bad. He took my house from us, my car...why wont he just leave me be.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 2:56pm

Hey... I'm glad that you reported it, and let us know what happens tomorrow.


I tell ya though, your best line of defense is to start meeting him in public places to exchange kids, and limit conversations to phone or e mail only.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 4:32pm

Just pray about and leave it alone girlfriend.
I going through a divorce, but I havent yet to expereience some of the drama you are going through, but through it all...keep you head up and stay strong for your babies.
Its going to hurt, but GOD had everything under control. Ask God to remove all the drama in your and give you peace. I promise it works.

--Kizzy

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Registered: 09-01-2005
Wed, 04-18-2007 - 10:28pm
Good grief, his family sounds like a Jerry Springer family from hell. Be careful! Best to avoid the whole lot in the future. Belinda