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Who's here & Where are you?
| Wed, 04-25-2007 - 12:47am |
Hi everyone... There are lots of new faces, and it seems like I've been so busy lately that I haven't been as in touch here as I'd like to have been.
Tell us who you are, and anything about yourself that you'd like to share and what part of the world you live in.
I'm Karen from Nashville, TN.

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Hi! Today is my first day posting here, but I've been lurking for a while!
I'm Michelle from MD, newly divorced mom to 2 beautiful dds, Sydney, 5.5 and Kendall, 3. My divorce was final a few weeks ago. I was married to my X for 11.5 years, together almost 20 (HS sweethearts). I never thought I'd be here, but last spring, he decided he wasn't happy & chose not to try to work on it. It wasn't what I wanted for me or my girls, but we're doing great. I'm happier than I've been in a long time...I can do what I want when I want! I'm more tired now b/c I have to do everything for the girls myself, but we're managing!
*waving*
I'm Calla, currently living in, and loving, NC. I've been divorced since New Year's Eve 2002, but separated since September, 2001. XH and I share custody of Rosie(12) and Gracie(8).
I remember my first posts on iVillage, but they were on the "Divorced Moms" board which is now defunct.
~calla~ mom to rosie and gracie
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Karen ~ wildlucky4me
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Hi Michelle,
I am in Northern Va. Not sure how close to DC you are.
I also have two dds (6 1/2 and just 5 yo). Been married 9 1/2 years. We are still in the separation process (lengthy, expensive mediation); my stbx hasn't moved out yet. His motives are similar to your X's which causes me great pain and anger since I think he is purchasing his happiness at the price of his children's happiness.
But, it is encouraging to hear your girls are doing so well. I can only pray mine do.
Welcome and stay around! I would really like to hear "survivor" stories from someone in a similar situation.
I live about 30 minutes North of Baltimore, but I used to travel to the Northern VA area for work before I had kids!
Our divorce was about as amicable as can be. We didn't use lawyers, we wrote up our own separation agreement, filed our own papers, etc. We went before a Master instead of a judge since it was uncontested. Everyone told me to get a lawyer, but I didn't see the sense in fighting tooth & nail for "things". I wanted custody of the girls & fair child support, which he agreed to (MD has a calculator, so there's not much room to negotiate there.) I wanted my share of the house & our belongings, but I didn't see the sense in putting our family thru heck over material things. I'm glad we did it that way b/c we don't have the resentment & anger caused by such battles. What fights we had over things were able to be worked out w/out paying those vultures (lawyers..lol) taking all of our money.
He's been pretty involved in their lives, he sees them almost every weekend for at least one overnight & he calls them every evening to say goodnight. He pays for what he's supposed to pay. I think it's been ok for the girls since we decided to put them first & "things" second, KWIM?
Thanks for the welcome!! I look fwd to getting to know you!
I'm Cindy. I hail from southern Michigan and it is GORGEOUS here right now. The flowers are blooming and the trees are getting their leaves. I LOVE spring.
STBX moved out on March 30th and papers were filed on April 4th so I'm really new at this. I'm having a very hard time dealing with stbx. My dad died on April 5th and stbx used the viewing as a venue to air our dirty laundry.
Talk about being kicked while you are down. Most of my relatives didn't know. My dad died without knowing and here I am standing in front of his casket with person after person offering condolences not on dad's death but MY DIVORCE. A divorce only a select few knew about until stbx arrived at the funeral home. I still feel like I was sucker punched every time I think about it.
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