He moved out
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| Wed, 04-25-2007 - 7:20pm |
I am hurt but I do accept and support his decision. I know it is best right now because he needs time away to resolve his anger at me for all I have accused him of and I need to stand on my own for a while. He did this for US, not for himself. I know some may consider it selfish. He's living 4 miles away, it's an efficiency apartment not even as big as our living room, and he sleeps on an air mattress. Hard to believe it's worth that, but maybe it is for him. He can regain some sanity.
I mean let's face it, I divorced and then married him within about a year and a half. I didn't even take time to fix my insecurities before jumping into this relationship, let alone, marriage. I put all that on the backburner and because I was busy, had no idea how bad off I was. He had time to heal. He did counseling, he went through his suicidal time, and he moved on. He was ready. I was not, but I couldn't accept being single.
I can now. I know that I may be without him for my life, but I may have him back. I cannot control that. I can control how I act and how I handle this time in my life and I choose to support him and be his friend because he deserves that. He's not a bad mad. Yes, we have fought and used verbal daggers and hurt one another immensely but when it comes down to it, we really do love each other and we didn't learn how to communicate. Hardest lessons learned are those learned too late, but it is never too late to learn to better yourself, even if you do not end up getting what you wanted out of it, you still become more stable and happy and that will benefit you in many ways.
I am seeing a counselor and Shane will go with me next time. I feel positive that it will be a good experience for us.
~Melissa~

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Hey there, I'm sorry you have to go through this. It's a very painful process. What do you want to happen with your marriage? Do you want it to work or to go separate ways? What does your husband want? These are questions you will have to ask yourself as you go into counseling. Counseling doesn't fix things overnight, but perhaps it will help. Regardless, we are always here (even when it seems like we're not).
Sending you hugs and lots of luck,
Becka
Hi Melissa~
Ya know, better late than never!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~