Seeing kids with restraining order
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Seeing kids with restraining order
| Fri, 04-27-2007 - 12:43pm |
Some may have read my previous post about the restraining order I had to get against STBX. Well we went to court and itis still in effect until May 21st. He decided to take the option of taking it to trial. He braught it up in court that he didnt understand how he would see the kids if he cant go anywhere near me. The judge suggested he see a lwayer and figure that out. (Neither of us have had one thus far). Well that day I began to feel bad that he wouldnt be able to see the kids. However, they (his family) did attack me and I dont feel bad for them not having contact with me. The kids were scared for awhile and didnt want to see him. At court I more or less urged them to go over and talk to him. He bashed me when they did go over to him. This aggrovates me because I didnt tell them to not go to him, I pushed them to and yet he still did that. Anyway, it has now been almost 2 weeks and he has not called them or attempted to pick them up from school (which i was pretty sure he would do, then I wouldve had to get the authorities involved to get them back.) I am glad he had been out of my life, but feel bad that he hasnt had communication with the kids. DD called him and left him messages to call her back that she wanted to say Hi and that I would not get him in any kind of trouble for calling them. I also advised him through VM the day of court that if he found a way to see the kids without coming near me, we could work out. Now my question comes in here...he has made no effort to contact my kids in these 2 weeks despite their calls to him. I am glad he is abiding by the rules to leave me alone, but why not call the kids? Do you think I am wrong? DD's communion is next week and I am fine with him being there, but it seems that this is teh quiet before the storm. I'm jsut amazed he wont talk to his own kids now. Shoudl I feel gui8lty when I am trying to get them to talk to him and he doesnt answer or call them back. I just feel like they should have visitation someplace with him and Im not doing enough. Shouldnt he make some effort in calling DD back if he wants to see them?

He could be making the effort to see them, and he's not... and he's using your action to get the RO as his excuse.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~