tomorrow's the big day
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| Sun, 04-29-2007 - 3:05pm |
I've gotten much support from this forum in the recent past - thanks to everyone's wisdom and warm thoughts.
Tommorow is my divorce, and I'm feeling very down and need to just get that off my chest. I saw my stbx today to pick up some of my things, and he is very depressed. He looked horrible. He told me that just last week he had a falling-out with his colleague/partner and will be leaving the practice where he works. He was unhappy there, but he got sort of fired (he works as an independent PT but in another PT's office) just last week - bad time for him, with our divorce on Monday. I was the one that ultimately asked for the divorce, so I feel like I have ruined his life. He wouldn't talk to me about his problems today. I'm scared for tomorrow, for how he will react, for how I will react. Such a sad time to go through.
Thanks, as always, for "listening".

The actual divorce day can be quite bittersweet, even if you are the one who wanted it... I remember my xh wanting a hug from me after it was finalized... no, go hug your girlfriend was my response...
I would recommend planning on doing something special for yourself tomorrow, once it is over... I met up with some dear old friends of mine who I hadn't seen in quite some time... they understood that I could be either way emotionally that day and still wanted to see me... we did lunch and then spent a couple hours shopping and such...
Thinking of you... its not easy... but you'll get through it!
*hugs*
Julie
No words of wisdom here as my first court date is on the 10th but I just wanted to give you a cyber hug <<<>>>>
Good luck.
Thanks to all for your thoughts.
Besides the lawyer being an hour late, and us having to sit in silence (my now ex didn't want to talk to me), it went smoothly. The actual divorce in front of the judge was over in less than a minute, I think. I cried on the way to work, but am glad that I'm at work today to keep my mind off it.
I'm sure the sadness isn't over yet, but hopefully we're both one step towards moving on.
Congrats on getting through one of the toughest situations you wll hopefully ever have to go through. Now you can focus on mending your spirit and looking toward the future.
Best of Luck,
Becka