Can any give me some advice to help cope

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Registered: 04-30-2007
Can any give me some advice to help cope
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Mon, 04-30-2007 - 4:47pm
Hi,
Im 29 with a 18 month old daughter, I knew my ex cheated on me when I was 5 months pregnant but dumb me kept taking him back for my daughter how dumb I look now. We have been going through this since then and now that she is almost 2 I cant do it anymore. I have no money there still are many women and its not fair to me or my daughter, the pain is overwhemling.
My head and friends tell me how dumb I am and that it shouldnt hurt and how its for the nest but my heart feels different. We havea court order so he sees our daughter every other day. for a few hours.. How do I deal with seeing him, and coping with the heartache. Can anyone help?
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Registered: 11-03-2006
Mon, 04-30-2007 - 4:52pm
This would be easier if we didn't have to see them. Unfortunately, with kids involved, there's no getting away from it. I have no advice as I'm still new to this myself but I'll offer a hug. <<>>
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Registered: 03-30-2007
Mon, 04-30-2007 - 6:23pm
You are not dumb. I did it for almost 2 yrs. I had 2 kids. I think the hardest thing was to admit I made a mistake. I kept trying to glue a broken marriage back together. There is no glue strong enough for that. You will survive. It's hard. I am not goimg to lie to you. To this day getting a divorce is one of the hardest things I ever did. BUT, the peace was so worth it. You need to meet new people. Have a very good friend that you can call at anytime and just talk. I moved far away. Back to my family. That was a big help. I divorced one and buried one. Burying one was easier. You don't have to see them with someone else. Good luck. Hang tough, for your daughter.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 05-03-2007 - 12:04pm
Yep.... you can cope by not telling youself that you're dumb!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~