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| Mon, 05-07-2007 - 9:16am |
Well, I was on a roll there for a few days, a strong one...Well, I crashed Sat. night.
Since he's informed me he's leaving, AGAIN, he continues to come and go as he pleases. You never know when he's going to be home or not. Drives me nuts! I spent Sat. night at my brother's in R.I. I was fine until my "so called" best friend called and said STBX was having people over! I don't know why she bothered to call me and tell me that, but whatever. She did and it ruined a good part of my night. Why does it seem so freakin' easy for him? That drives me insane! So, I evilly (prob. not a real word, LOL) chuckled to myself after she told me that and figured, he'll be out of here in two weeks, have your party. Right?
I come home yesterday and he's on the couch watching the race. Just like any other Sunday! So, I basically had a big crying meltown and went to talk to him. Dumb Dumb Dumb. He basically acted like he cared....entertained me. I was done crying and felt like a fool and walked away after he bashed me about all the things I didn't do....I set myself up for more abuse.
My DD sleeps with him every night which breaks my heart....
Just a bad moment I hope, had to get it off my chest. Just so frustrating to see him AGAIN not skipping a beat....Out almost every night, coming and going as he pleases! I can't wait till he's gone because it's driving me nuts!
Thanks for listening!
Jennifer

How is his leaving going to affect your dd who sleeps with him every night? Isn't a sudden departure going to be traumatic? Does she know; I can't recall your previous posts? You both might want to work with her transitioning to a different sleeping arrangement if dad is actually moving out.
Sorry not to focus on you -- I know how maddening *they* can be at this stage, but I just thought about your little girl. I have two of my own and we are working really hard on independent sleeping with them because of the changes coming.
M
Thank you for your response and I appreciate your input!
My STBX has already moved out once! He moved back in last Nov., ya know, the second chance. He dropped the "I"m leaving again" bomb on me two weeks ago. She's been sleeping with him since.
You're right about independent sleeping arrangements, but how do I do that? She is so sad that he is leaving again! Do you have any suggestions?
Ugh, this is so hard...
Thank you again for your time!
Jennifer
Well, I would think, to start you each would take turns sleeping with her or getting her cuddled to sleep. So, she can do it for you and will get used to the idea that daddy isn't gonna be there every night. Then you could progess to having her go to sleep with one of you sitting near her bed and then eventually out the door.
It isn't easy.
It has literally taken us years, but we really had to make it stick when we knew my stbx would be moving out. I was the force behind it, but we worked together.
Gl with it. It is so hard and so hard that your little girl knows.
The pain adults inflict on innocent children .... leaves me gasping!
M